Why did I find this exciting?

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Why did I find this exciting?
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Sat, 06-12-2004 - 11:04am
Last night, my friend stopped by and we went shopping and then when we got back, my DH got home from work with a friend of his and sent my friend and I to go get beer. While we were driving, she mentioned that if DH and I wanted to go have sex, don't mind her, but she might drop in and watch. She said she was a voyeur and loved to watch. Thinking she was joking (even though she has begged to see our sex pictures from the honeymoon) I just said, sure go ahead and watch.

Well, the subject came up at home later and we were laughing about it...all of us and then she went outside to smoke a cigarette and DH pulled me into the bedroom and we started to have sex. She could hear us outside and then she walked inside and the bedroom door was open and she just stood there watching us and played with a toy at the edge of the bed. For some reason, I just didn't stop and neither did he. Neither of us have ever had anyone watch before. Now I'm not saying this is going to ever happen again. Probably not, but for some reason, I found it exciting.

Never was it considered that she join in and that wouldn't happen. Plus she is very respectful of the fact that we're married and no one is to join us sexually, but watching didn't bother me at all.

Has anyone ever watched you and if so, did you like it? Would you ever let it happen?

Like I said, I found it exciting, but I'm not so sure I'd let it happen again.

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Sat, 06-12-2004 - 1:09pm
No, we've never had anyone watch.

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Sat, 06-12-2004 - 2:09pm
Tish, I think you're right. Just the whole naughty aspect of it. It was like, "we really shouldn't be allowing her to watch us, but....it's kinda cool." To be honest, I barely noticed she was there. She wasn't making comments or making it obvious that she was present. And her toy was inside her pants so she wasn't making a spectical of herself by trying to upstage what we were doing. I had no idea she even had it until afterwards.

I didn't feel uncomfortable at all, but I know her and have become very comfortable around her so it wasn't as if a stranger was in the room.

Will it happen again? I doubt it. But it was fun to see how it felt to be watched.

Melissa

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Sun, 06-13-2004 - 1:58am
It's probably a good thing that it won't happen again. It won't feel the same the second time, and there might be expectations from either your husband or her if she continues to watch. For example, your husband may take your continued agreement with her watching as permission to take things further physically with her. I'm not saying it would happen, but there is the potential for it to become more complicated.
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Sun, 06-13-2004 - 2:20am
No, no one has ever watched us. It's possible that someone has watched us without our knowledge though. I just wouldn't feel comfortable with a friend or someone close like that to watch. It would be uncomfortable to see them afterwards!
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Sun, 06-13-2004 - 10:26am
I actually had no idea she was there until she had been there a while. We were both too into it to notice her and then I looked over and saw her standing there. By then, it was too late, she had already seen enough so there was no need in saying anything. And as into the sex as I was, I wasn't bothered by her being there....just kinda of excited by the whole taboo of it all.

When she mentioned watching, I really thought she was joking, but I figured out later, she wasn't. But there won't be another instance of her or anyone else watching. I know that I wouldn't have even been sexual with anyone in the house had I not had a few drinks.

And DH also had a few so his inhibitions (as few as there are LOL!) were lowered too.

Well, it's something we can say we did and never do it again. But there will never be a threesome and later, by the way, my friend told DH that the watching us that time was the closest he'd ever get to his 3some fantasy. So I know she wouldn't ever try to join in.

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Sun, 06-13-2004 - 11:14am
Have you seen her since this happened? IF so, did you feel uncomfortable? I think I would. Alcohol CAN allow you to do things you never would before though.
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Mon, 06-14-2004 - 11:10am
I haven't seen her. I had things to do this weekend so I wasn't available to hang with her anyway. I'm not sure how I'll feel. I did tell DH that it can't ever happen again. I feel sometimes as though the comfort level has become too much and I'm not happy with that. I want my private things with DH to be just that.

If I choose to talk to her as a friend about something, so be it, but other than that, it's just between DH and I.

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Mon, 06-14-2004 - 2:57pm
WHy doubt it. I fyou enjoyed it, go for it. Make a tape or something, pictures, video, etc. Those can be just as much fun to let people watch as it can be in person, wtihout all the other for mentioned issues comeing up. Have you and your husband ever talked about threesomes? Or swinging? It may work for you it may not, but Exhibitionism doesn't necessarily mean anyone would ever be included sexually. The thrill is worth it, and if you enjoyed it, don't let nay sayers and reservists sway your own feelings on the matter. If you enjoyed it, go for it and have fun.
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Mon, 06-14-2004 - 3:07pm
Funny that this question is asked today. Over the weekend, we went to a pool party and at the end of the evening, there were 3 couples in the pool. My hubby and I and two other couples. Bathings suits came off and we were playing Marco Polo and Chicken. The games died down, the other couples seemed to disappear into the night and it was just my hubby and I. We started having sex and finished. Afterwards and without having even noticed prior, we could see one couple over by the jacuzzi going at it and another couple in the cabana. The cabana canvas was white sheer and you could see their silloutes perfectly. My hubby put a bathrobe around me and him and we sat in one of the chaise lounges and just watched. My mouth was hanging wide open, I believe, lol. He fondled my breasts while we watched the two couples from afar. It was kinda strange, but erotic. I don't know if they had been watching us prior or not.

I don't know if I'd let if happen again or not. I didn't really "let" this happen actually, just something that happened. I think if it was the same scenario again, I'd let it. Each couple was at a distance, but you could see and hear them. The sounds from that cabana were intense! And the couple by the jacuzzi were either completely oblivious to us watching or just didn't care.

It didn't seem to be a big deal at all to them. Weird feeling, hard to say how I feel about it actually. Wasn't a bad thing though. Maybe because we were outside and everyone had "their space" so to speak.

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Mon, 06-14-2004 - 3:11pm
For me its the idea that someone might be watching that is the turn on. Sex in a place where we might be caught is always a turn on ..the car, woods etc. However the idea of someone being there at the end of the bed would have to be a big no-no as i think its a private thing.

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