Smelly sex?

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Registered: 11-17-2003
Smelly sex?
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Tue, 06-15-2004 - 7:44am
I've always heard people say things like, "sex smells nasty," and "it smells like sex in here," and so on, but I dont get it. I have sex with my boyfriend, and it has never once "smelled" in our room, or anywhere else for that matter. I have even walked out of the room, then walked back in, just to see if it smelled in our room, and it didnt. Why do people say this, and WHY do people smell when they have sex? That just sounds like they're dirty to me. Thank you.:)

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Registered: 05-27-2004
In reply to: codybear22
Tue, 06-15-2004 - 7:58am
Some people's body fluids have more of an odor than others....and when the male & female combine.....yet another odor is produced. Sometimes, we don't smell our own "odor" because it's part of us. How else can you explain people with strong underarm BO....who seem oblivious to it?

As long as you bathe or wash after sex, launder your sheets if they're soiled...there shouldn't be any odor that anyone would notice.

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Registered: 11-17-2003
In reply to: codybear22
Tue, 06-15-2004 - 8:04am
Yeah, I agree. As long as you bathe occasionally (LOL) then why would you smell? I also agree about the oblivious BO people. HOW do they NOT smell themselves?! Hahaha, so funny!:)
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Registered: 04-21-2003
In reply to: codybear22
Tue, 06-15-2004 - 9:59am
That whole BO thing gets me too. As for the odor during sex, well we all have SOME odor. Not a bad one particularly as long as we bathe, but how do you explain that female smell that men go for so much when they are giving oral? It's mostly that and then the sweating going on. But I'm a bather.

I know that when my body stinks from being outside sweating, I know it and can smell it. And I'm heading straight for the shower. BO is just unacceptable. People if you don't bathe, please start because it's just FUNKY not to.

Melissa

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Registered: 01-04-2004
In reply to: codybear22
Tue, 06-15-2004 - 12:05pm
I've heard that before too and I think they are talking about the smell of the condom (if you are using them. Sometimes that leaves an unsavory scent.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: codybear22
Tue, 06-15-2004 - 12:32pm
Of course, YOU don't smell it after you've had sex because it's YOUR own smells. Others might smell it though since they haven't been smelling it for the last half hour or so. We become "used to" our own smells and those of our partner. Much as smokers can't smell smoke but it's all too apparent to everyone else!

But sex doesn't smell "nasty" at all. We smell because that's part of the sexual response. We have pheromones in our sweat and bodily fluids which attract the opposite sex. It's all part of the experience and it has nothing to do with a dirty body.

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Registered: 04-13-2004
In reply to: codybear22
Tue, 06-15-2004 - 1:02pm
I think it's more subtle than anything. Although different people have stronger body scents/odors than others. But there is a smell, it's not bad, nasty or bad though. The subtle sexual aroma of two loving partners body parts coming together. It's a good thing!
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Registered: 04-13-2004
In reply to: codybear22
Tue, 06-15-2004 - 1:03pm
Yes, you can sometimes notice a distinct sexual odor in the room. Not always, but sometimes - depending.
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Registered: 11-17-2003
In reply to: codybear22
Tue, 06-15-2004 - 3:04pm
I disagree that I have become "used" to my own smell. I've even asked my BF if I have any type of scent down there when he gives me oral sex, and he says no. He says I am one of the only girls he's slept with whom doesnt have much of an odor. The rest of the girls were just smelly, I guess. Oh well, thanks for answering my question, although I still think it's kind of gross, that there would be a strong odor after having sex.
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Registered: 05-04-2004
In reply to: codybear22
Tue, 06-15-2004 - 3:09pm
I love the smell of sex, I don't know how to describe it, but it isn't bad, its not like it smells like fish... or at least it shouldn't. Its just the mixture of sweat and bodily fluids and every couple makes their own "sex smell." I guess i just get a feeling of comfort after having sex and going into our room and having that smell linger for a few minutes.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: codybear22
Tue, 06-15-2004 - 4:01pm
You keep trying to equate sexual smells with dirty bodies though, and that's just not necessarily the case. Semen has an odor as does female lubrication, to a more or lesser degree per person. Sweat smells when exposed to air. None of those things has anything to do with being dirty. They have to do with exertion and sex.

Maybe you have a lower estrogen level which causes your own bodily fluids to have less of a distinctive odor. Or maybe you don't allow your BF to give you oral sex close to ovulation when hormones are high and your scent stronger. But we ALL have our own natural scent, whether it's obvious or not. And if your bodies are clean, then there isn't anything nasty or gross about the smells of sex.


Edited 6/15/2004 4:11 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001

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