sore after sex

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Registered: 11-17-2003
sore after sex
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Tue, 06-15-2004 - 7:54am
I have been with my BF for almost two years, and he is my second partner. ( my first partner and I only had sex once). We have had sex since soon after I met him, and up unitl a few months ago it felt fine. Now, when ever we have sex, it feels like I am too small for him to fit in my vagina. Like it shrank or something! Also, when we are done, the inside of my vagina is usually sore and stings when I pee. We dont have "rough" sex, and he is not THAT big, so I dont know what the problem is. We have sex the exact same way we did before I started feeling sore. Sometimes it's so bad, that we cant do it for a couple days after. One time, I even had to put an ice pack down there, because it hurt so bad. It almost feels like there are tiny cuts inside my vagina, but how could that be? And why NOW, after having sex with him for almost 2 years? I am on the BC pill, and was wondering if it could possibly cause the vaginal tissue to thin, making it easier to tear, or some other side effect like that. It seemed to start when I started my new BC pill, Zovia, which was about 5 months ago. Any help? Thank you.:)
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Registered: 05-27-2004
In reply to: codybear22
Tue, 06-15-2004 - 8:06am
Have you tried adding lubrication? It sounds like you're just "chafed" from friction. If you haven't, then that's the first thing you should try. Some b/c hormones can dry up the natural lubrication some. The burning when you urinate is from the urethral opening being irritated.

If adding lube doesn't help, then the next thing you should do is talk to your doctor about the possible side effects of the pill you're on. Maybe you need a different formulation.

What else is going on in the relationship? Problems like this in the bedroom are often the result of problems outside the bedroom.

Whatever is causing it, it's not normal, and pain and burning is not normal. You & your doctor will just have to play detective till you find out what's causing it.

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Registered: 11-17-2003
In reply to: codybear22
Tue, 06-15-2004 - 8:15am
We have tried lubricant, but it wasnt very lubricating. It was KY Warming Liquid, and it's kinda on the thick side, and it doesnt glide very easily. I think it might be the pill drying me up a bit, I have to have a good amount of foreplay before I become wet enough, and often we jump the gun, b/c we're too turned on!:) I dont know waht you mean by "what else is going on outside the bedroom". You mean like, am I under stress or something like that? I am under stress right now, with school, and I am being treated for anxiety and panic attacks, but other than that, nothings going on. Our relationship is great and loving, and we both love sex, that's why I am asking for advice, b/c we cant go that long with out having it. LOL! Thanks.:)
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Registered: 05-14-2004
In reply to: codybear22
Tue, 06-15-2004 - 9:34am
I would suggest a different lubricant. The KY warming liquid has gotten very bad remarks by several people on this board and while I haven't tried it, the opinions turned me off from trying it. One type of lube that works really great for me is made by Trojan...damn, what the hell is the name! LOL, I can't remember the name but it works very well and if your SO pours it in his hand then rubs it on him, he won't get the cold shock becuase it warms up quickly with your body temp. If that still doesn't work, I would suggest talking to your doctor about the issue and seeing if it is in fact the new BC or if is something else causing the problem. Crystal Clear!! That is the name of the Trojan liquid...I knew I'd remeber in time. LOL Hope this helps.
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Registered: 04-13-2004
In reply to: codybear22
Tue, 06-15-2004 - 4:45pm
I'd go get a little check-up at the gyno-docs. Tell him what you told us. See what he says!

good luck!