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Anyone else experienced this?
| Tue, 06-15-2004 - 11:37am |
Hi, I was wondering if anyone else has had a problem with their H having erection problems? My H can get one, but sometimes has trouble maintaining it. I have had people say maybe its medical but he's 34, not sure he would be having real bad medical problems right now. But then again you never know. He is also a porn addict and have heard that maybe it could stem from that, in the since he feels the need to view others for arousal and that the human flesh is no longer a big turn on. I have read about that, so maybe theres some truth to it. He says he thinks it comes from trying to hard. Could be I guess. Any thoughts on this would be great, thanks.
Hugs to all!

BUT, if your DH is truly a sex addict, and this isn't just your opinion, and he's lost control over his porn habit, then it's very possible that he's unable to perform without that visual stimulation. And he will require professional help to overcome this addiction, just like any other. I would suggest that you two discuss this and how it can harm your relationship over time. Then, take some steps to find out where he can get help in your area.
Secondly, sexual problems like ED can occur at ANY age and it has more to do with circulation and general health than anything else, as well as emotional/relational health being big factors for many men. So, he does need to talk with a urologist to rule out a physical problem as well.
Tell your DH how you feel about the excessive porn use but confront him in a nonjudgemental but concerned way. You don't want him to become defensive and refuse to discuss it. He needs to know that this addiction can destroy your family if it's not treated. And he also needs to know that you are being neglected sexually while he becomes more entrenched in his habit. Encourage him to get a medical exam and then deal with his problem. Good luck!
Edited 6/15/2004 12:26 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
I wish you all the best.