Did I go to far on vacation

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Registered: 06-15-2004
Did I go to far on vacation
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Tue, 06-15-2004 - 2:45pm
I recently went on vacation to the carribean with the guy I have been dating for almost 6 months. We have always used condoms however our first night away the condom broke and we continued to have sex the rest of the week with out one. On that trip I did some sexual activities that I typically wouldnt ever do (with him only). Now he wants nothing to do with me. What went wrong. Now I'm worried about STD's and HIV!
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Registered: 04-08-2004
Tue, 06-15-2004 - 2:52pm
Go get tested, immediatly. And, forget about this guy. He is no good. Remember how much fun you had, and look at it as a learning experience. If you enjoyed the sex, chock it up to sex, and leave it at that. If not, then it was just a mistake. We all make them, and we all live with them everyday. It is all good. Go get tested, just to make sure, and then take it easy for a while. You will need to be tested several times in the next year or so, to make sure you are clean.

If he wants nothing to do with you now, has he told you why? Has he said anything to you? If not, he is a prick, and you deserve better, so don't worry about it.

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Registered: 05-14-2004
Tue, 06-15-2004 - 4:15pm
First of all, GO GET TESTED!!! If you are having any thoughts of being infected with STD's or HIV, get tested immediately. But, while STD's come up pretty quick, it can take as long as 6 months for the HIV virus to surface and a couple of weeks depending on certain types of STD's. So get tested about a month later, maybe even a couple weeks later, and keep getting tested for HIV for the next year or so.

Secondly, if you freaked him out in the bedroom when you were down there and he is not man enough to handle it, let him go. You need to be completely comfortable with the intimacy of the person you are with. If he cannot take it, leave him in the dust and find someone who can! Possibly someone who can teach you a thing or two as well! Makes it a lot more interesting when both parties can bring something new into the bedroom. Just my two cents...

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Registered: 04-13-2004
Tue, 06-15-2004 - 5:57pm
That is very odd behavior. Going out for six months, go on a wonderful trip like that and then he drops out of site? Very odd. Was there any indication that his interest was waning? I would go to the doctor to get checked out although I don't think that is why he dropped out of site.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 06-15-2004 - 10:09pm
I agree with Tiana. Seems strange. Something else is going on. You should get tested, but I would also try to talk to him about what he is freaking out about. I would be too curious to drop it and move on.

My doc says the first night you should go without a condom is your wedding night. Seems silly, but probably a good idea.

Sorry this happened to you.

sara

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Registered: 05-27-2004
Tue, 06-15-2004 - 11:56pm
I agree with the others on the testing.....hopefully, he was clean. As for him "wanting nothing to do with you" now.....exactly what happened? You haven't heard from him since? Or you've tried to contact him, and he's not returned your calls?

Whatever you two did, weird, freaky, or whatever, HE did the same things....so if that's the reason.....that's the pot calling the kettle black, for sure!

As with any other relationship....if it's over, it's over, and there's nothing you can do but accept it. Move on and forget about it. Chalk it up to experience.