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| Wed, 06-16-2004 - 10:25am |
She was shocked that he didnt "do her" back and that what he said to her kind of made her feel cheap and sort of used. She ended up watching tv for a while and went to sleep. She said that she was really upset because he has never done anything like this in the past and she doesnt know why he was being so inconsiderate of her feelings and needs. She hasnt yet spoken to him about it as he leaves for work very early(before she gets up).
I really didnt know what to say to her, I mean I do think he should have done the same for her (as she said he usually does). I guess if I were in her situation I would be hurt that his needs were satisfied and mine were completely overlooked and not cared about.
What do you think of this? What should I say to her? We have a lunch date today and I know she will bring this up. We talk about everything, we are very close and I dont want to make it worse for her by saying the wrong things.
Thanks in advance, Toots

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Could she have given him the impression that she was not in the mood for anything in return when she got up to go to the bathroom?
Thanks for the advice though ,at least Ill kinda know what to say to her.
My advice would be to drop it. It does not sound like her SO habitually ignores her needs so there really is no issue. Sure I can appreciate her being frustrated but that can be taken care of today or she could have taken care of that last night when he fell asleep. I can gaurantee there has been at least one time he didn't get what he wanted too. IMO you shouldn't give something with the sole goal of receiving in return...just give to give.
Judith
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