Am i easy?

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Registered: 05-06-2004
Am i easy?
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Wed, 06-16-2004 - 12:01pm
All my best friends considering im easy now, even the one who has slept with more than 10 guys!

im 22 yo, and have slept with 3 guys since i was 18 yo,and it has been more than a year since i last had sex!!!!!!!!!!

The reason why they think im easy is i had sex with 2 of them too fast, it's within 3 dates. And i recently had a vacation and hookup with a guy, we made out quite heavily on the first night but we didnt have sex.. and i told them about my hookup, and they said im too easy...

WTF!!!!! so am i too easy ???

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Registered: 05-18-2004
In reply to: bubblediver
Wed, 06-16-2004 - 12:07pm
You need new friends. If you moved at the pace *you* wanted, no you are not easy. Has nothing to do with the number of men you slept with or how soon. To me, easy means you are easily manipulated into having sex. That's not the same as choosing when and with who you have sex. If you are in control of your sex life, how is that easy?

Leticia

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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: bubblediver
Wed, 06-16-2004 - 12:08pm
Do you think you're too easy?

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Registered: 11-15-2003
In reply to: bubblediver
Wed, 06-16-2004 - 12:11pm
Dear Bubblediver,

When others judge us, it's usually because they are not comfortable with their own decisions. No one can tell another how long they should wait; It's entirely up to you. If sex feels right to you, and you are doing it safely go for it. If YOU feel "easy" (odd word that), after your previous encounter, keep that in mind and the next time a situation comes up like this, wait before having sex or making out.

If others judge you, it's usually best to not tell them your experiences...keep it to yourself, or share it with someone that is less likely to be judgmental.

Peace.

Scott.

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Registered: 04-13-2004
In reply to: bubblediver
Wed, 06-16-2004 - 12:31pm
Doesn't sound like it to me. You're 22 years old - you know what you're doing. LOTS of people sleep with someone on a first date even! Much older than you! So, do your thing - just practice safe sex and maybe keep your kiss and tell stories to yourself and not let your friends know! You're fine.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: bubblediver
Wed, 06-16-2004 - 4:47pm
Do YOU think you are? That's the important question.

If YOU don't feel bad about anything you've done in the past, then keep your sexual exploits to yourself in the future. Maybe they're only concerned for your safety though. I mean they ARE your friends, right?

IF you share everything with people, and expect them to listen, then you may be inviting opinions you aren't ready to to hear. BUT good friends will tell you the truth as they see it. It's up to you to weigh what they say against what you feel about things.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: bubblediver
Wed, 06-16-2004 - 6:18pm
Doesn't sound like it to me. Do what YOU are comfortable with. If you are okay making out on the first nondate/hangout that's fine.

You friends are probably just looking out for you, warning you to be careful and think about what you are doing. So, think about what you are doing. If you feel good about it, and aren't putting yourself into unsafe situations, who cares what your friends think.

Maybe your friends feel like they've seen a major change in you lately. COuldn't tell from your post, but maybe you had only had sex with one guy. Then within 2 months had sex with 2 guys you didn't know very well and had a make out session with a stranger.

best of luck

Sara

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Registered: 05-06-2004
In reply to: bubblediver
Thu, 06-17-2004 - 10:28am


i dont really care what others think, but they are my best frds since high school. We share almost everything of life for 8 years since we were 13 or 14. I just couldnt figure out why they consider me being easy now.. =(

I am choosy actually, that's why i have been single for more than a year and without sex. But if i like someone and that someone wants to make out or sex, i couldnt say NO. they have been telling me i should not have sex too soon since i broke up with my ex, the "relation" lasted for a month only and we slept on 2nd date. i did take their advice and didnt have sex on my recent vacation with a really cute guy, however, we made out, and they think it's not acceptable.....

they are lucky they all find someone special and having a long term relationship, but i have not and now go without sex for more than a year. i know they care about me, but the way they talk like im a slut really hurts.......

i like sex and no shame to admit it , but I guess i really have to keep it to myself now..

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Registered: 05-14-2004
In reply to: bubblediver
Thu, 06-17-2004 - 10:48am
Hey, if you like talking about it, all of us here would love to hear it! You don't have to keep it ALL to yourself, just maybe keep it from them. Best friends or not, it is not their place to judge you and your actions. If you were comfortable with everything you have done, that's all that matters. They just can't see where you are coming fromsince they are in a serious relationhip. They may have never had a chance to be in your shoes so they can't cope with how you feel. No biggie, just don't tell them anymore. Tell us instead!! LOL
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: bubblediver
Thu, 06-17-2004 - 11:31am
As I said in my 1st response...weigh what they say against what you feel and then decide if they're being judgemental. I think you need to TELL them that they're hurting you by taking this attitude though. IF they're true friends, they'll listen and keep their opinions to themselves from now on.