Cyber/Phone Sex & One Night Stands

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Registered: 03-16-2004
Cyber/Phone Sex & One Night Stands
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Thu, 06-17-2004 - 1:11am
I recently became single after being in a 4-year committed relationship that just wasn't working.

I have only had 2 sex partners in my life (I'm 26). I am a very sexual person. I love sex - I pleasure myself regularly, whether I'm in a relationship or not. I use toys and have looked at erotic pictures and movies.

Here's where my questions come in. First of all, I recently got this computer. So the door to cyber sex and phone sex has been opened. I find that sometimes a conversation that turns "naughty" online really turns me on, big-time.

And the other night, I had phone sex for the first time with a guy who I met online. It was a very cool experience - I liked it. I want to do it again! But I feel like I should NOT want to do that.

Also, a guy I met online who I might have phone sex with soon e-mailed me a photo of his penis. I am very turned on.

I feel like there's something "wrong" with me. Like I shouldn't be enjoying phone sex. But like my partner pointed out - hey - we're both adults.

Also, I am very seriously considering one-night stands/casual sex (done safely with proper protection)if given the opportunity but not in a relationship. It's something I've never experienced and would like to. Eek!!!! One of the men I met online asked me if I'd ever have a romp with him....and I feel like a sicko, but I kind of am not opposed!!!! (Provided precautions are taken and safety measures are adhered to).

So here's another question: if I were to have a one-night stand, how does one go about that once it has been decided? I mean, they say you shouldn't be alone with someone you don't know...well, you can't just up and have sex in a public place! lol

What is a girl to do? I just feel like I've entered a new stage of sexuality.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 06-17-2004 - 2:19am
This is your life and you have to make your own rules for it, whether anyone else agrees with your choices or not. I personally don't think it's a good idea to meet a stranger for sex. I recommend that you rent the movie "Looking for Mr. Goodbar," an old movie with Diane Keaton from the 80's. It's a cautionary tale about the lifestyle you're curious about.

But IF you decide to do it...why can't you meet in a crowded place for lunch first? Then, if you aren't attracted to him or you change your mind, you have an out. Just make sure that your lust isn't leading you to make poor and dangerous choices that you could regret!


Edited 6/17/2004 2:21 am ET ET by katmandoo2001