how can you tell

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Registered: 02-19-2004
how can you tell
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Tue, 08-31-2004 - 12:22pm
how can you tell if you (females) "come" or dont "come" during orgasm?anyone know?

xxx kate
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Registered: 05-18-2004
Tue, 08-31-2004 - 12:40pm
I can't describe it very well, but there are contractions that happen.

Leticia

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Registered: 05-27-2004
Tue, 08-31-2004 - 4:09pm
I'm not sure what you're asking. IF a female has an orgasm, she'll know. If she's not sure, then she's probably not having an orgasm.

When you use the word "come"...are you talking about the way a male "comes", or ejaculates? "Come" is sometimes used to mean the same thing as an orgasm in a female.

Females are also capable of "ejaculating".....which is NOT an orgasm....and can happen separately from an orgasms. If a female ejaculates, there's no question, she soaks the bed or whatever she's on at the time. I'm not talking about a "wet spot", I'm talking about SOAKING! There are not many females who regularly ejaculate, though.

A "normal" orgasm doesn't produce liquid, beyond the usual "lubrication", which doesn't "gush" or pour out.

By your name, you sound female. If you're asking because you want to know if a male can tell if his partner is having an orgasm, then the answer is usually NOT. That's how so many women get away with faking an orgasm. Guys like to think they can tell, but they really can't if the female is a good actress. If you're asking because you fake it, or are considering faking it, DON'T. It proves nothing. If you don't know how to have orgasms, learn. If your partner isn't helping you with the right amount and kind of foreplay, then tell him.

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Registered: 06-18-2004
Tue, 08-31-2004 - 4:37pm
And contrary to what you have probably been told or read, there is absolutely nothing wrong with not having an orgasm. They are great, but there are times that, for whatever reason, they are just not happening (at least for me). I don't get bent out of shape about it, I just enjoy the closeness and sharing with my partner.
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Registered: 05-27-2004
Tue, 08-31-2004 - 11:57pm
You're so right, if that message could only get out to all the beginners.....both male and female! Too many men take it personally, like they think they "give" orgasms....which makes too many females fake them. Then they're so busy faking them that they never learn what it takes to really have one.

Sex can be wonderful with OR without orgasms! If you can't have ice cream on your cake, are you going to push the cake away because it's no good?

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Thu, 09-02-2004 - 8:38am
no im just curious to know how it happens ,hell yeah i orgasm i know that for sure but how do you know u come aswel, yes and i mean ejaculate like males do
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Thu, 09-02-2004 - 9:52am

If a woman has female ejaculation (which not all women do), like GTB said in a previous post, it will soak the sheets, not just


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Thu, 09-02-2004 - 4:12pm
cheers mate sorry i asked someone how do females know they are "coming", and they asked me if i meant ejaculating "like males do" so i said yeah like men do , u know like it shoots out, i was wondering if thats wat happens to us wen we "come".

ah right , thanks for reply, my sheets are well messy before we even get started!! hehe

cheers