i am with a married man hes MARIED TO...

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i am with a married man hes MARIED TO...
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Fri, 09-03-2004 - 1:53pm

i am with a married man hes MARIED TO MY SISTER should i leave him yes or no?



  • YES
  • No
  • HELL YEA
  • not if u love him
  • not if he respects you
  • YOU NEED HELP


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Registered: 04-23-2004
Fri, 09-03-2004 - 2:20pm

Is this question refering to your previous posts?


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 09-03-2004 - 2:47pm
not sure how you got yourself involved in this, but stop it now. i don't understand how you can have so little respect for your sister.
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Registered: 10-18-2001
Fri, 09-03-2004 - 5:46pm
OK, what on Earth do you think that you are doing having sex with your sister's husband?

There is so much wrong with this "relationship" that I'm don't know where to begin.

If the situation is what I think it is, then he is just using you for sex. You've got ask yourself why am I with a man that is prepared to cheat on his wife with his sister-in-law? You've got to ask yourself how much respect you have for your sister in all this too.

Get the hell out and have some respect for YOURSELF.

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Registered: 08-31-2004
Fri, 09-03-2004 - 5:54pm
But if i leave him its gonna make it worse i have been with him 4 months b 4 they were married ...hes talked about getting a divorce..but then if i stayed with him it be even worse i seriously dont know what to do
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 09-03-2004 - 6:11pm
how do you think it will make it worse? it's just a matter of time before the sh-t hits the fan. the longer you drag it out the worse it's going to be.

you know what you have to do. you are just afraid of the short term reprecussions. should have thought of that before you got involved in this mess. now all you can do is do your best to clean it up.

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Registered: 05-18-2004
Fri, 09-03-2004 - 6:13pm
>>But if i leave him its gonna make it worse i have been with him 4 months b 4 they were married ...hes talked about getting a divorce..but then if i stayed with him it be even worse i seriously dont know what to do<<

How will it be worse if you leave? What'w worse than not only being betrayed by your husband, but by your SISTER too? You KNOW what to do, now you just need the self respect to leave.

Leticia

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Registered: 10-18-2001
Fri, 09-03-2004 - 6:26pm
How will it be worse?

Your story just keeps getting worse. What was he thinking marrying your sister while he was having sex with you? What were YOU thinking having sex with him before and after the wedding?! It doesn't get any worse than this. Can you imagine how your sister would feel knowing that you were having sex with her husband before AND after the wedding?

He's a selfish, guiltless rat that is using you just for sex. He says he is going to get a divorce? Don't be stupid, can't you see that it would have been easier for him to not marry your sister in the first place? He'll NEVER get a divorce to be with you. You are being weak and stupid for continuing to have sex with him, not respecting your sister, and making excuses about it. Get a grip on reality and see the situation for what it is. He's using you and your sister quite likely won't talk to you ever again if she finds out. Say NO to this guy and stay away from him. Have some self-respect for yourself.


Edited 9/3/2004 6:28 pm ET ET by westridge2001

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Fri, 09-03-2004 - 6:33pm

It doesn't matter if you were with him for 4 months, 4 years or 40 years before he married your sister, he chose her, not you.


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Sun, 09-05-2004 - 2:45pm
I talked with him last night and told him how i did a poll and a post about are relation ship i told him the results of what they were and i told him that we are always together and always around my sister and i luv my sister not that i dont luv you its just its not right like most of the people said ur just using me for a peace of a88 and i was with u when u married her u didnt stay with me u married her and ..he just looked at me like he was confused . Then he told me that his cussin who was staying with them when i was visiting saw us toghether and that evry one knew about us and my sister was the only one who didnt know ...i told him i couldnt do it any more and i whent out and sat in my car waiting for my dad to leave so we could go home and he came out and told me to come in like there was no problem ...... but i cant advoid not talking to him i at least see him once a day ..weather he takeing me to an appointment or picking me up or going with us to parties were always together and i dont know what to say to him i know hes gonna want to talk more about it and i really dont know what to say..whats a good way to not act like a fool and advoid him?
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Registered: 05-18-2004
Sun, 09-05-2004 - 3:20pm
Wow, this just gets worse. She's going to feel like such a fool when she finds out that everyone knew but her. You know what you need to do? Grow up, get some guts, and come clean to your sister. She needs to know who she's married to so she can decide whether or not she wants to stay married. Are you even sure you're the only one he's cheating on her with, because his reaction to what you said leads me to believe you are not the first nor the last. Your sister(and you) could wind up with an STD from this guy. Come clean and start rebuilding a relationship with your sister. If all is out in the open, there will be no games of trying to avoid him.

Leticia

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