What is the difference?

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Registered: 04-01-2003
What is the difference?
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Mon, 09-06-2004 - 8:23pm
I've been thinking about this one for awhile. There are no right or wrong answers, it's *just* opinion! But what makes some males seem like 'guys' and some seem like 'men'?

Here's the thing. When I worked at the hospital, my boss was definitely a man. He was totally polite and business-like, we were on very friendly terms and talked often about our families, interests, etc. But there was something that said 'Man' about him.

In contrast, at the place I worked at for awhile last year, the salesman was a 'guy'. He was the same age as my previous boss, so it wasn't an age issue. They were similar in looks, and in fact were neighbors. He was surprised to find out my old boss was the same age as he because he said he was 'stuffy' (not IMO, but hey). They both had families and homes, were hard workers and successful people in their fields, and had varied interests. But they seemed like father and son.

I know if everyone thinks about it, they'll think of some men they know that they think of as guys and some they think of as men. What *is* it that makes you think of them in one way or another? I know, not a deep question but one I've been pondering on.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Mon, 09-06-2004 - 8:53pm

Good question Tally.


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Mon, 09-06-2004 - 10:23pm
You would think so, but I've seen them both at work and out of the workplace, and they still come across the same, lol. One day when the saleman 'B' and I were talking and I mentioned that 'J' and he were the same age, he was shocked. He said "I thought he was so much older than us!" And this is a guy that has seen 'J' in a neighborly way, cookouts and pool parties, etc. And I've seen 'J' at social functions where he had a few drinks and was really *really* relaxed!

know some other 'males' that I would never describe as anything but a guy, no matter how old they were, and some that I only think of as men. Not just co-workers but friends that I've seen in all different situations. It's some quality that I just can't put my finger on. I dunno, lol.

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Registered: 07-22-2004
Tue, 09-07-2004 - 2:10pm
ACTUALLY...

Many of us MEN view other males the same way...either they're men or they're guys. HOWEVER, the same goes for women as well...either they're ladies or they're gals.

For example, whenever I interview prospects for employment with either one of the businesses I'm involved with, its really my job to see right through them and determine the best candidates for the job. The by what I've noticed were the type that were direct and decisive. They cared very much about the task at hand and remained focused regardless the discussion. The had a more relaxed attitude about things, "not the end of the world" type of attitudes.

The were the same when it came to having less "seriousness" about situations than the were. The maturity and presentation of "evolvedness" in their styles was just so evident in some as compared to others. A joke to one would be mildly funny to some whereas others would take it to town. A disaster to some would either be "who cares, lighten up" or something to freak out about whereas others would step to the plate and simply resolve the issue flat out.

THIS is the difference I saw between the two finalists in the first showing of "The Apprentice" as well. One handled difficulty with such confidence and smoothness whereas the other freaked out before anything even went wrong.

So anyway, you're right, it really DOES seem that way whether it be employees or clients or people you know or even the people that serve you at a restaurant or a store for that matter.

C h a r a c t e r


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