Do men fantasize during sex?!
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Do men fantasize during sex?!
| Sun, 09-12-2004 - 9:40pm |
I just really want to know how many men actually fantasize during sex. I know that my boyfriend would never cheat on me, but he has a female internet buddy, and has gone to her website to look at pictures of her. He actually thinks that I don't know (He thinks I would be mad)!! She is not pornstarish or anything, but for some reason, he just doesn't like chatting with men. I just want to know if he is fanasizing about her when he is with me, because that would really crush me, but at the same time, I need to know. I don't want to ask him because I found out about this by uncrinkling a crumpled piece of paper that had missed the trash, and there was a weird website on there. When I looked at it, it was a woman's website, and he had deleated it off the internet history on my browser. He loves me very much and we live together and have a baby together. We really are very happy, but I want to know if he is just curious or if I need to worry about where his mind is!! Please tell me the truth!! I can handle it!!
HALIGR

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There is no one here who can tell you if your guy fantasizes about another women when he is having sex with you.
I would be more concerned about why he's talking to another woman on line, and what they're talking about. If you really trust him you wouldn't have taken the time to check it out. How do you know he deleted something from the history? Maybe he never even talked to her. Now that you've opened the can of worms, the only way to figure out what is going on is to ask him about it. If he HAS been talking to her, he must not have wanted you to know about it if he took the time to delete it from the history. Why?
You can either ask him, or you can put it out of your mind, and forget about it.
The relationship you two have is too great to not trust each other and talk about your concerns...ESPECIALLY when it involves the absolute most intimate part of your relationship. Most of us would find nothing wrong with you addressing a concern you have with something he is doing, when it involves another female as a friend who's friendly enough for him to chat with often, but we will never know as much as YOU will when it comes to how he will react anyway.
I have the type of relationship that does not restrict either of us to question something in such a similar nature. In fact, my wife has been a member here on ivillage for quite a while now and sees/knows everything I post here. So instead of us hiding things and/or even feelings or concerns from each other, we had enough trust to address them and diffuse ANY issues. If you're able to, then its your turn.
If he cares about what makes you happy and also what makes you uncomfortable, then you are in such a better position for communication than many of the other ladies were that have posted here from time to time.
Wish the best for ya!
C h a r a c t e r
above all else
Mr. Para
C H A R A C T E R
HALIGR
p.s- no I do not fantasis about others when I am with him. I think my boyfriend is the sexiest guy I've ever laid eyes on, and so I don't need to!! I won't even discuss the porn comment, good for you, but let's just say it is not for me!! Thanks again!
Edited 9/13/2004 4:24 pm ET ET by haligr
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