Should I do porn?

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Registered: 06-25-2003
Should I do porn?
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Wed, 09-15-2004 - 5:11pm
Myself and my female friend were approached in a bar by someone who runs a porn site and makes videos who asked if we would be interested in working with them. It was actually a woman who approached us which i guess is unusual.

I took their card with contact details. The money they offered is real good and i've checked out their site and they seem genuine. I'm seriously considering doing it and my friend is keen too. They want us to do a girl/girl video together which would be a bit weird but we are good friends and really comforable with eachother.

At the moment I feel like I want to do it but worry maybe in the future I'll regret it although I'm not sure why i would unless someone close to me found out.

My other worry is that although it is a turn on thinking about it now i might feel a bit cheap afterwards. The description of what she will shoot that she emailed to me is fairly blunt and straight forward - 'Graphic girl/girl video including kissing, fingering, clit licking, anal licking and toys'. I am comfortable with all this stuff (i think!) but the factual crudeness of it all makes me feel like i might feel like a piece of meat afterwards?

Any opinions? Has anyone done anything like this befre or being asked. Advice needed!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 09-15-2004 - 5:27pm
I wouldn't even EVER consider doing something like this. I can't imagine why you would want to take this chance. Not worth ANY amount of money to me.

I think you can pretty much count on someone close to you finding out. Think of the long term things too. Once its on film, it will always be out there. You can't take it back. If you don't like it, too bad. If you have kids, they might see it, hear about it. Anyone you date after this, if you tell them, they'll think of you as a porn star, if you don't tell them, you'll be worried this secret will be uncovered.

Coworkers, family friends, ANYONE could see it. You also won't always know who has and who hasn't seen it. You may not know that someone else knows you did it. I can't imagine thinking of my naked body in a porn video being watching by anyone in the world with $19.99.

If you're really hard up for money, take out a loan or get a second job that doesn't require having your anus licked by your friend.

Also, I've read about them using women as the "approachers" because other women are more open to the idea when its from another girl. There are still going to be plenty of 15 year old guys masturbating to it.

Best of luck whatever you decide.

Sara

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 09-15-2004 - 6:11pm
if you have hesitations, which it sounds like you do, don't do it. once you do it it's out there forever.
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Wed, 09-15-2004 - 6:17pm

I personally wouldn't do it, wouldn't even think about it.


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Wed, 09-15-2004 - 6:27pm
I would think that if you don't want people close to you to see it, then it's best not to do it. There is no way to keep them from seeing it. Have you thought about you and your friend filming each other with a home video camera, just the two of you, to see if you will even be comfortable sexually with each other in front of a camera? It's one thing to think about it, another to actually do it. I don't know if I would ever do a porno or not, by the time my sons were old enough to be interested in porn my movie would be outdated and I doubt anyone would even watch it LOL. So I am not sure that would even concern me. I myself only watch the newer stuff, not the older stuff. That's part of the whole porn thing, keep it new and interesting. I doubt anybody watches anything that old. Would this be a one time thing, or do you think it would lead to you eventually doing more movies when you need money? I think that would be my biggest concern, that I would start to depend on the income. Doing 1 movie is not going to destroy your life, but the lifestyle I think wouldn't work for me.

Leticia

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Registered: 05-27-2004
Wed, 09-15-2004 - 6:38pm
Being that it's a sleazy business at best, I guess being approached in a bar wouldn't be considered sleazy by them. It would seem very sleazy to me.

Picture this: 20 years from now, your teen-aged son decides to rent a porn film. HEY! There's MOM! Coool! NOT! It could happen.

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Registered: 08-19-2004
Wed, 09-15-2004 - 6:47pm
I am intrigued by all the replies.

I agree, and I would never consider doing porn. But, If we look at porn and/or accept that it is ok to view porn, why is it that it is not ok to be in porn?

What do we think about the people who are in the porn industry?, do we still consider it to be degrading to women? How about men in porn? Do you think it would be worse to have you children see their father or mother? How would you feel about a son or a daughter who was in a porn video?

I guess for me, when I think of this I feel very hypocritical. I have looked at porn and have been aroused by it. But, I think that the industry treats women (often very young women) very unfairly (I could be wrong). I doubt that the majority of these women are proud of the work that they do and I think there is still a definite double standard.

I'm not exactly sure how I feel about this? I know, Ive brought up a lot of questions...

What do you all think?

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Wed, 09-15-2004 - 7:17pm
Interesting replies, not sure if i'm any clearer in my mind though.

The first thing people say is that maybe people i know will see it. There is alays a chance but i think it's very unlikely. From looking on the internet there seems to be an awful lot of porn out there so the chances of a) knowing someone close who looks at porn and b) them seeing my video are slim.

One of the posts mentioned that my friend and i should practice in front of a camera first to see how it feels. Not a bad idea but i don't think it will be a problem for us as we are very sexual people anyway and very comfortable with eachother.

I have no moral issue with porn so maybe that's where i differ from a few of the people who've posted. To be honest right at this moment the whole idea is a big turn on for me but i worry this is going to build and build until i go trough with it only to feel cheap at the end of it.

I don't think if i do enjoy it i will find myself getting deeper into it but i think as the money is good i would re-visit it from time to time.

I suppose the question is how would i feel about someone close to me if the did porn. The answer for me is that away from family it wwouldn't matter to me. I get the impression i must be different to most in this respect?

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Registered: 07-11-2004
Wed, 09-15-2004 - 7:45pm
if it's any consolation, i watch movies and television shows and they move me in many ways, but I would never want to be a big star. that lifestyle doesn't thrill me. i value privacy.

you feel that you're a hypocrite because you are getting enjoyment out of something that you find degrading(and you would be). someone who thinks that porn stars are having the time of their lives and making good healthy choices, and good money to boot, wouldn't feel like a hypocrite. you have two choices to stop looking at porn or to buy porn that you know is woman friendly. unless you feel that it's degrading to women period.

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they are just like everyone else. earning a living.

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not any more or less degrading then it is to men. as long as the participants are doing what they really want(not forcefully) to do it's not degrading.

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no difference.

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scared for them(disease). not happy that the world can view them having sex. but i'd love them still and not disown them.

Edited 9/15/2004 7:47 pm ET ET by lauranmac




Edited 9/15/2004 8:20 pm ET ET by lauranmac

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Wed, 09-15-2004 - 7:46pm
>>The first thing people say is that maybe people i know will see it. There is alays a chance but i think it's very unlikely. From looking on the internet there seems to be an awful lot of porn out there so the chances of a) knowing someone close who looks at porn and b) them seeing my video are slim.<<

Not as slim as you might think. If you start looking at porn sites, alot of the images are the same. Alot of pictures get stolen then used to create other sites. You are also forgetting human nature. You will be doing the video with your friend, so even if you keep your lips zipped that doesn't mean she will. Gossip is in alot of people's nature, and once it's out it's hrad to stop. And if she gets mad at you, don't be suprised if this info is used by her or one of her friends(or one of your other friends who might know) as a weapon.

The only reason I cautioned you was because of your doubt. I think anything that carries the amount of possible consequnces such as this should be done without doubts, so even if something unfavorable arises because of this you still won't regret it.

Leticia

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Registered: 02-14-2004
Wed, 10-06-2004 - 2:41am
Girl- DON'T DO IT-- I'm telling you-- your friends or someone you know my run across the website one day, see you on the site, and tell everyone! YOU WILL REGRET IT-- I know it's good money-- I used to strip (dance), but I got a bad rep. PORN is 10 times worse. It's for the whole world to see! THINK ABOUT WHAT I'M SAYING-- I've fantazised/ thought about being a pornstar... but it's just a silly fantasy-- I will never act upon it. Girl, if you do it, you will not only feel like a "slut" but be called a "slut", regardless if it's with a girl.

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