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Registered: 09-16-2004
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Thu, 09-16-2004 - 8:16am
Yesterday my bf asked me if I mb and at first I was embarrassed but then I told him that I do. He became irate and began calling me all kinds of names. He said that women don't do that only men do. The reason this all came up is because I asked him why he has never gone down on me when he practically pushes my head on his d##k every time we have sex? He said that a lady wouldn't enjoy it, and that men are different. He's my first bf, so I don't know any better, but I feel dirty and slutty and like a FREAK!
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Registered: 07-02-2003
In reply to: electricianwannabe
Thu, 09-16-2004 - 9:16am
Please tell my you're kidding. You need to drop this guy like yesterday's garbage. Does he know that it's the year 2004? Women are every bit the sexual creatures that men are, and you unequivocally have every right to pleasure and stimulation as a man does. Can I ask how old you are? No offense, but by your post you seem young. You can do a lot better than this guy, there are lots and lots of men out there that realize that a woman masturbating is a very natural (and sexy) thing. I would tell him to go back to whatever cave he's been living in and wait for the next ice age.
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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: electricianwannabe
Thu, 09-16-2004 - 9:18am

MB, does that mean masturbate?


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Registered: 07-22-2004
In reply to: electricianwannabe
Thu, 09-16-2004 - 10:00am
Okay electrician (NICE choice of occupation, by the way), you're hearing this one from and more importantly, .

NO! And then NO, and also NO, and finally NO! Got it? :)

HE is incorrect, and just so you know, he does NOT represent the REAL men out there that wouldn't put their ladies through this type of totally untrue statements. Even if he's a great guy, his claims are NOT true, not even for whatever age group he's in...TRUST me! Now listen up...

Hopefully you're his lady because he loves you AND your body and wants to be THE one to provide your needs. If thats not why he's with you, then decide what you must. Masturbating, wet dreams, going down, all of that is both male AND female activity. If his own little world is NOT use to that, then you've got yourself a VERY unique one there and I'm sure we all here wish you the best of luck. Don't hesitate to read on about what other women go through and get to enjoy while you're roaming ivillage...you're in for QUITE the surprise, LOL! Hope the replies help. Good luck!

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Registered: 05-27-2004
In reply to: electricianwannabe
Thu, 09-16-2004 - 10:01am
Honey, the word is "masturbate", and you can say it out loud. You are NOT dirty, or slutty, or a freak. HE is a male chauvinist pig, and ignorant and abusive besides. He isn't a boyfriend, he's a USER.

Women masturbate, men masturbate, some do it for each other. REAL men don't have to push a woman's head down....and REAL men reciprocate orally. There are two people in a relationship, and BOTH people enjoy sex in all it's forms. He seems to think it's all about him, and he's totally WRONG.

No one needs a man so badly that they should accept this kind of abusive behavior. He's your first boyfriend, and hopefully you'll realize that he's NOT there because he loves you, he's there because you allow him to abuse you, and he's getting the kind of sex HE wants.

It's time to break it off with him before he poisons your mind against all men. Most men will treat you as an equal, and be just as concerned about you and your happiness as their own. You deserve much better than you're getting from him.

PLEASE don't come back and tell us how nice he is to you sometimes! He's only nice when he has to be, to get you to submit to his selfish needs. A real man is nice ALL the time, even in bed! All abusers are nice sometimes, but that's only because they HAVE to be, to lull you into submission. Abuse isn't only physical violence, it's subtle and emotional. He's trying to make you feel worthless, and lucky to have him. DON'T let him do that to you.

Break it off. You'll be much better off being alone, and happy with yourself, than you are allowing this man to treat you like garbage.

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Registered: 10-23-2003
In reply to: electricianwannabe
Thu, 09-16-2004 - 10:33pm
Just to set your mind at ease a little. These boards are full of women who are upset that there men masturbate. Does it upset you to know that he does?

Jim

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Registered: 04-21-2004
In reply to: electricianwannabe
Fri, 09-17-2004 - 11:51am

Why are you with someone who obviously holds you and your gender in such low esteem?


First and foremost, masturbation is perfectly normal, whether you're male, female, young, old, married, or single. Nothing in the world wrong with it, and most people do it. There is

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Registered: 11-07-2003
In reply to: electricianwannabe
Fri, 09-17-2004 - 1:19pm
Agreed, your boyfriend is an idiot. I would just like to add that lots of women enjoy receiving oral as much as men do, and many women find it easiest to reach orgasm this way.

As for masturbation, it's normal and healthy and all about YOU. It doesn't sound like this man cares at all about making you happy or satisfying your needs. Lose him and be good to yourself.

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In reply to: electricianwannabe
Fri, 09-17-2004 - 3:58pm
I think that you need to get out of this relationship and fast. He has no respect for you at all. My mb and most other women do to. It is part of being a sexual being, and there is also no reason he should have started calling you names for it. He also shouldn't be forcing you to give him oral and refusing to do it to you by saying that I lady won't like it.

Please get out of this relationship before any physical abuse starts.

Good luck.

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Registered: 01-11-2004
In reply to: electricianwannabe
Fri, 09-17-2004 - 4:17pm

Men

 

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Registered: 09-18-2004
In reply to: electricianwannabe
Sat, 09-18-2004 - 4:22pm


Your bf is being childish. I love performing oral on my fiance and she also enjoys giving me oral. As far as mb my gf says she doesn't get much out of it but I wish she would. I think it is healthy, on the other hand my gf doesn't want me to mb.(which I don't agree with, but that is another story).