What's wrong with a 1 minute man?
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| Fri, 09-17-2004 - 9:58pm |
As a guy, I don't seem to understand women have problems with guys not being able to hold off on their orgasm. So what if the man has his orgasm first---as long as he is still hard---which I stay hard for upto 10 minutes after my orgasm, can't the women still "ride" him until she comes?
Does the need for the man to "last" come from the movies where both partners pant wildly until mutual orgasm. As for me, my wife and I have never been able to achielve the elusive mutual orgasm.
In fact, she has never had an orgasm "during intercourse" and only through oral or stimulation with my finger. And she has never had more than 1 orgasm in a single night.
I have alot of control on how long I last. In fact, I can last upto 1/2 hour without any problems. But in my case, since I first give my wife her first (and only) orgasm for the night, I have the opposite problem.
After she is "done" having her orgasm, I feel guilty for taking a long time and feel I need to "finish up" fast. She would prefer it if I were a "1 minute man".
It is embarassing to be married 8 years and still be asking what may appear to many of you to be fundamental questions about sex. Neither one of us has had other partners and until I started visiting these boards I thought everyone had sex the way we do and that the movies were fake. From many of the posts here, however, it seems that alot of women are having orgasms DURING intercourse or they wouldn't care if their men lasted a long time or not.
We've tried different positions with no luck. The only way she orgasms is via oral or with my fingers so my "lasting" is irrelevant to her.
Any advice? Any others in the same boat. Anyone want to clue me in on what we are missing?

I'm not sure where you've gotten the idea that many women have orgasms during intercourse, (see the last paragraph!) but that's not really true. About 80% of women DON'T have orgasms from intercourse alone, but they can have them during intercourse by adding clitoral stimulation, she can do it, you can do it, or your position can do it. Woman on top is the best for that in my experience. Also, even though most of us don't have vaginal orgasms, there is something emotional about intercourse....that is a different KIND of pleasure, but a pleasure nevertheless.
Eventually, your wife might learn to have multiple orgasms.....many women do. Some women's clitoris' are sensitive after having an orgasm, so they stop. But, if they wait a few minutes, it can happen again, and again. It's all a matter of learning what you're capable of.
Chances are, the women who are complaining that intercourse doesn't last long enough are not getting enough foreplay to have an orgasm before intercourse....and they think that if intercourse lasted longer, they might have one. There are many men who take NO time for foreplay.....and haven't got a clue about how to make sure a woman is just as satisfied as he is. There are also a lot of very young and inexperienced posters on these boards, male and female, that don't have a clue about the differences between a woman's needs and a man's. They're not asking the right questions, that's all.
There's not a problem, especially if both of your are satisfied with your sex life. It doesn't matter what some women prefer if you and your DW are happy.!