Is it wrong?
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Is it wrong?
| Mon, 09-20-2004 - 9:23pm |
I have a friend (yes, he really is a friend, its not me!!) who wants deperately to stay faithful to his wife. He also has a sex addiction. When we were in college he was known as a "male whore". But when we grew up he realized it was something more...a true sex addicition. He got married a year ago and has not cheated but told me he can feel the urge to have sex with another woman growing everyday. Like an alchoholic needing a drink I guess. So I suggested he go to a professional so he can have the sex without the pitfalls of having a real affair. What does everyone think about my advice. I know he needs help and the ideal is to not have sex with anyone other than his wife. But this is real life and the "ideal" just doesn't happen all the time. I feel using a pro would be the least destructive to his life assuming his wife never finds out.

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
A professional "escort" for example does NOT get rid of his urge, that only the urge. If you REALLY want to help this friend, DON'T encourage the idea of this urge by going to someone else for it.
Those two need professional counseling to help them satisfy the urge . What happened to THAT idea? Why wasn't THAT idea realistic? They ARE married, if I read that right.
Either this addiction is one that requires the mere from different partners, or it is TRULY a sexual addiction on its own. If the marriage isn't satisfying enough, then there's specific counseling designed to help in those matters. If its something else, then again, professional mental help should identify and help with whatever the issue is. Feeding the fire through someone else is NOT the answer...
...ESPECIALLY a pro who could make it next to impossible to become satisfied ever again with the sex thats suppose to be in the marriage. Just my thoughts, nothing more.
C h a r a c t e r
above all else
Mr. Para
C H A R A C T E R
Whether it's with an amateur, or a professional, it's still cheating, and how will that help his marriage? Refer him to a counselling service, not a hooker.
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Masturbating doesn't work with these sexual needs? Also I gotta ask, why would he
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He needs a professional, but not in the form of a hooker.
You have probably already gotten this advice (I didn't read the responses yet). But if he is addicted, sending him to a "pro" is just a fix. What he really needs is help. All addictions, whether to drugs, booze or sex are just escape techniques for people that are really unhappy. He should see a professional, but not a prostitute, he needs to see a counselor.
Peace.
SCott.
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That actually makes sense to me (that in its self makes me question it even
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