Whats wrong with me?! owww! advice plz!

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Registered: 12-30-2002
Whats wrong with me?! owww! advice plz!
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Tue, 09-21-2004 - 1:28pm
Hi All,

I need some advice, my question is sort of similar to the post "Ouchie". I have been with my BF for 8 months, and never really had any probs having sex. We do use extra lubrication, and normally things are fine. Well about 2 weeks ago, he was giving me oral sex and then after we proceeded to intercourse (w/o extra lube, just his saliva) and it sort of hurt a little, then after he climaxed, it started to burn. So i washed up and then the next day, i was itching.. and i was itching for about 5 days. It just passed finally a day or two ago, so i assumed i was ready for sex again. So last night, my BF and i tried it again, and this time when he entered me, it burned and it hurt, and after he pulled out, it was stinging again...now this morning, i feel that little "itching" feeling again... what is up with this??? AHHH.. i want to enjoy sex! Not hurt! Do you think it had something to do with his saliva then entering to have sex? Or, a tear and it hasnt healed? I dont want to be burning and in pain all the time, when before we were fine. I do have a gyno appt next week, but i wanted some advice asap :)

thanks everyone!

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Tue, 09-21-2004 - 1:32pm
It could be a number of things.

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Registered: 08-26-2004
Tue, 09-21-2004 - 1:33pm
Burning, itching and painful intercourse could be a sign of an std. I would go to the doctor ASAP and get checked.

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Registered: 12-30-2002
Tue, 09-21-2004 - 1:41pm
STD? I dont know how i could have "received" one from the same partner of 8 months. And i know he isnt cheating on me, so that cannot be an issue. He was clean before we had sex the very first time, and if 8 months have gone by without problems, until recently.. where did it come from?? He is worried aswell because he doesnt know if i have something too, but i go to yearly pap smears and usually everytihng is fine. Maybe it was cause i wasnt lubed enough from just his saliva that one time..? Or does saliva contain bacteria that isnt safe for penetrating the vagina? We have had oral before, so this is why im so confused?
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Registered: 12-24-2003
Wed, 09-22-2004 - 9:51am
Could be a yeast infection.

Does your boyfriend notice a difference in the taste or smell?

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Registered: 08-26-2004
Wed, 09-22-2004 - 2:30pm
So after reading your reply you are saying that 8 months ago - when you and your man 1st got together, he and you both had complete tests done for std's and they came back negative?

If so, then maybe it is not an std but it wouldn't hurt to go get tested. There are women who married to a man for 20 years and get an std and they just knew for sure their husband wasn't cheating, but he was. You have been with his guy for a year - you can't say with a 100% sureness that he hasn't cheated... you never know and it is always better to get tested and be safe then to let the problem continue b/c IF it is an std it could be something serious.

I am not trying to be negative or mean, I just wish people would be more realistic of what men and women are capable of doing.

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Registered: 12-30-2002
Wed, 09-22-2004 - 5:19pm
The itching feeling is pretty much gone- so im thinking it was a yeast infection, Because i did have a thicker discharge than normal. But, i havent had sex in a few days- so im not sure if it still be painful. Guess id have to test it out :) hehe. But anyway, i also bought a new lube- liquid silk, dunno if anyone has tried or used it. I havent tried it yet, but it is glycerin free, so im assuming it will help in preventing yeast infections and the spreading of them, due to no sugar content. We'll see!
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Registered: 10-17-2004
Sat, 11-06-2004 - 11:08am
Same thing happened to me.....I had a yeast infection but the burning is not going away. It burns when we have intercourse. My gyn said that the area looked red and sensitive. I have sensitive skin, too.