what do men think of vibrators?
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what do men think of vibrators?
| Wed, 09-22-2004 - 1:40am |
my BF of 3 months and i were taking a little compatibility quiz the other day, just for fun... there was a question in it about sex toys, and he made a comment about how it would make him uncomfortable if i had a vibrator. it surprised me, actually, because he's quite enthusiastic about the fact that i masturbate (he LOVES to watch), but he said a vibrator is different because that's not a sensation a man can duplicate. he's also very much opposed to a couple using a vibrator together during sex and doesn't understand why anyone would want to do that.
what do you guys think? is that how most guys feel, or is he being "unenlightened"?

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I don't know about most guys.
yeah, we had a long conversation about it. what you said is definitely part of it. he can be a little competitive like that - like he wants the orgasms he gives me to be "better" than any other orgasms i can have... it also seems like he's opposed to the idea of introducing "technology" into the bedroom. he's kind of anti-gadgets in general, unlike most men i guess. he doesn't even own a tv!
my main problem is that he's never had a girlfriend who had one (at least, not who told him she had one) and he's never tried it himself with a partner - so then how can he have such a strong negative opinion? that's called prejudice! i feel like i should buy one and experiment with it a little, just so he can see that it's not a threat at all. but he thinks that's "passive aggressive" of me.
oh well. our first little disagreement. so much for compatibility quizzes... ;)
Personally, I think thats a very natural feeling that some simply have less and others simply have a lot more, but we all have it one way or another. Again, just my personal thoughts, not law. :)
I myself have tried convincing the Mrs. here to get one, because sometimes I'm literally just not "up" to it, but would love for her to be pleased without waiting for my tired body to get back to normal. Now I'm not sure if its simply embarrassment or if she really wants the real thing that bad, lol, but I don't bother her about...at least she knows I really don't mind though.
What "I" think about the vibrator is quite elementary: Its a tool that could provide a different kind of pleasure for her that I don't believe I can copy, so if she feels that its something she might enjoy, then why WOULDN'T I help her enjoy that?, especially if I'm actively helping her myself.
Different views here and there. :)
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