Does sex define who you are?
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Does sex define who you are?
| Wed, 09-22-2004 - 9:20am |
Does sex, define who you are as a person? Let's for a minute pretend that there are not any STD's(wishful thinking) so as not to cloud the issue. In another post someone mentioned that nice-guys are not whores. I personally don't ever ask a person about their sexual history, or really care to know for that matter. It's not a criteria that I judge a person's character by. If you're a great person, I'd never know if you were a whore or not. Do you ask and thereafter judge someone based on their sexual past?

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As far as sexual history is concerned, if you take STD's out of the picture......who cares? Past life experience, sexual or otherwise, makes you what you are today, and today is all that counts. The past can't be changed. No one knows what the future will bring.
Insecure people get hung up on a partner's past relationships because they're afraid of being compared. Secure people don't care, and if they're smart, don't ask.
If someone defines themselves or others solely on past sexual experience, they have a very limited frame of reference, and place too much value on sex. There's a lot more to life than sex.
I don't judge by their past sexual experience.
I'm not a woman, I'm a guy. You bet sex defines a person. A guy's sex organs hang outside the body. Sex to a guy is going inside another person. It's an external act. Since most women don't give it away and talk can be so cheap, when a woman accepts a guy inside it's a big deal. It's an acceptance of the guy as a whole. Women can find sex anywhere, but it's much harder for guys. The more sex a guy has equates to he must be a cool and attractive person.
I guess instead of the old saying that goes "Behind every successful man is a woman",
If they've been married for years and years and years and now going through a divorce --- safe bet to say they want to get out and explore and will be pretty selfish about their lives and time. If they are shy and reserved and have not had many experiences, safe bet that they have tons of porn laying around or in their computer history --- no matter HOW nice and sweet they are, lol and are also very horny, but may not know how to use their tools. Lots of sexual partners is a cautionary: "Player" flag. Not always though. Just a few examples I've noticed over the years.
Im thinking that college cant really count in this equation..it isnt real life..lol What happens in college stays in college.
To have the urge to have sex with many partners is what makes us male..To keep our sex exclusively for the person who loves us with all their heart is what makes us a man...
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