oral with 5 O'clock shadow?

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oral with 5 O'clock shadow?
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Wed, 09-22-2004 - 12:13pm
Folks,

I'm one of those guys who shaves his beard in the morning and has stubble showing by 3 p.m. My wife loves receiving oral but ONLY if I shave again after coming home from work---is this a reasonable request? She says my beard stubble is rough and hurts her down there. I can see how that would happen but see a ton of guys with full beards and mustaches out there and can't imagine that they are permanently giving up on oral.

Can you give oral to a woman while you have stubble without hurting her. Perhaps I'm not being careful enough.

What's my beef with having to shave again. Well, it would be one thing if my being shaved would guarantee lovin that night....but it really is a drag to go through the trouble of shaving only to find out the wife isn't in the mood that night. (clean shaven for nothing).

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Wed, 09-22-2004 - 12:26pm

Well going from experience on all three, full beard, 5 o'clock shadow and clean shaven, dh had a full beard for a while and there was no problem with oral.


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Wed, 09-22-2004 - 1:01pm
stubble can be really irritating. it depends on the guy too, i think. my current boyfriend's stubble doesn't bother me, even when he hasn't shaved for a couple days. but i had one boyfriend where i couldn't stand it at all - even kissing him would sometimes make my face feel raw if we went at it too long. his hair used to grow in very dark and fast too... maybe it has something to do with that? one thing we used to do was introduce the razor as part of foreplay. he would shave himself in front of me (which i find a big turn on), or sometimes i would even help. it was a lot of fun!
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Registered: 05-13-1999
Wed, 09-22-2004 - 4:48pm
Tish,

You ask why I can't simply ask her earlier on in the evening if I should shave. I guess I can and I have tried a couple times but she says that "kills the mood". If she says "yes go ahead and shave" she feels like now she HAS TO MAKE LOVE TO ME and that kills the spontaneaty and fun of it.

The idea of shaving as foreplay is something we haven't tried but it doesn't seem too appealing. Perhaps if my wife was the "hornier" one of us she would anxiously wait while I shaved...but mine has a low libido to begin with. My being "unshaved" just gives her an easy reason to say "no".

I don't get it...all these guys with goaties, etc. going around. Maybe they do have "softer" hair than me. Mine is the strong "Sylvester Stallone" type of stubble.

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Wed, 09-22-2004 - 5:59pm

Himba, I can so relate.

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Wed, 09-22-2004 - 6:25pm
I don't understand. My SO has very heavy hair, it's like needles growing out of his face. If it's morning(our most frequent time to have sex), he's pretty shadowed. ;-) He never hurts me. He uses his tongue mostly and his lips, but he never touches me with is hair. Personally, I'm a little bit of a freak because I like the way it feels when done very gently. A sensation I can't get anywhere else. Just a little here and there. Just try and use your tongue only if that's the case and improvise with your fingers instead of your lips.
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Registered: 11-07-2003
Wed, 09-22-2004 - 6:30pm
For me, if I see his shadow, it turns on the waterfalls. I find it so sexy. Everyone's different.
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Registered: 10-18-2003
Wed, 09-22-2004 - 7:41pm

Dbf is a major 5'oclock shadow guy and it's never bothered me. However, if it did, I don't think it would be an unreasonable request for him to shave. In fact, he'll often shave in the middle of the afternoon on a weekend and that's a signal to me for what's in store that evening! lol


I think it doesn't bother me much because so much of oral is tongue and lips ... not cheeks and chin. And once i'm going, its pleasurable enough he could be wearing sandpaper and i wouldn't notice ...



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Wed, 09-22-2004 - 7:43pm

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Registered: 07-30-2004
Wed, 09-22-2004 - 8:15pm
I have suffered from a similar dilema. My ex disliked the chaffing if I hadn't shaved, and I definately don't have Stalone type facial hair. Well maybe like Stalone if he was blonde and 14, lol. Anyway, if I we engaged in oral soon after a wet shave, my skin would burn from her vaginal fluids. It really stings, lol. I will be self sacrificing, after all, even though its a tough job, somebody has got to do it. More often I'd just use an electric shaver since its faster and doesn't make me raw. The shave's not as close, but it's good enough as long as I don't rub my chin down there.

Himba, listen to GTB, if the hair is long, it is not even close to being as abrasive. THat is because longer hairs bend, while shorter hairs do not. So short hairs (which have just recently been cut) have a sharper tip and stab into the skin of the receiver. My advice to you: grow a beard. I would too, except, well, I wouldn't. I tried once and ended up looking like Orlando Bloom except without the jaw line. There is another guy who definately needs to shave more often.

-phat

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Wed, 09-22-2004 - 11:38pm
I surmise that you shave with a safety razor with lather, which ends up being a longer ritual than the 2 or 3 minutes it takes with an electric razor. The tissue down there on women is VERY sensitive and stubble can take all the joy out of oral (according to my wife). Perhaps you can buy an electric razor and use it to shave when you get home from work. That way you will always be prepared. We must be sensitive to the needs of our wives.