Am i taking this the wrong way?

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Registered: 09-04-2004
Am i taking this the wrong way?
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Thu, 09-23-2004 - 8:14am
I don't even know if I'm offended by this, but the other day after I gave my new bf a blow job for the first time (and swallowed) he said "Thanks" and told me I was cool... Is it just me or is gratefulness not realy what you want after that?

Then when he left, I thanked him for coming over and making me lunch, and he thanked me for "being beautiful" and "being so cool".

It's not like these are bad attributes, but it made me feel kind of.. I don't know.

Help me out here!?
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Thu, 09-23-2004 - 9:05am
I think you might be reading too much into it.

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Registered: 11-15-2003
Thu, 09-23-2004 - 10:25am
Dear OP,

Don't make an drama out of this. He was just grateful and wanted to express it. Interpret it as: "I think you're special, you make me feel special...I love who you are."

Tish (as always) gives great advice on your response if it still makes you feel uncomfortable.

Peace.

Scott.

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Registered: 08-27-2004
Thu, 09-23-2004 - 6:12pm
Don't let his *thank you* get you down, like the others have said, he was just being greatful, take that a run with it. Obviously he enjoyed it
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Thu, 09-23-2004 - 6:36pm
i agree with what the others have said. like you, i don't like thank you's like that either. not to overanalyze, but are you possibly picking up on other things? like is he standoffish, also dating other people, doesn't call very often, etc.? sometimes a thank you like you describe can be an attempt to cool things, as in "that was nice, but that doesn't mean we're in a committed relationship".
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Registered: 09-04-2004
Thu, 09-23-2004 - 7:08pm
Yeah, that's what was kind of bugging me about it but there's nothing else to suggest he doesn't want to be in a committed relationship. He's very attentive, everything else he does suggests he's committed. So it was just out of character... therefore I shouldn't read too much into it! Thanks everyone for your reassurance!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 09-23-2004 - 7:29pm
doesn't sound like he meant anything else by it, so take it at face value.
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Registered: 04-01-2003
Thu, 09-23-2004 - 11:24pm
Sometimes after a really great sex romp, DH will say "Thank you" and I'll say "No, thank YOU" and we laugh and go back and forth with it. He probably just meant...thank you, for giving me something very special. I don't see anything wrong with that. Just because you're doing something for his pleasure doesn't mean he can't be grateful or happy about it. At least he didn't act like it was owed to him!
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Registered: 09-23-2004
Thu, 09-23-2004 - 11:28pm
I do the same as the last post. My boyfriend always thanks me afterwards, and ill say no thank You. Its not a major deal when he thanks you. Just shows he enjoyed it.
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Registered: 08-02-2004
Fri, 09-24-2004 - 6:22am
I would say this guy sounds young and just doesn't know what the right words are. It sounded like he enjoyed it and felt the need to say something. What should he have said?

I've always enjoyed a bj but I dated a woman for a while that would do it and then right afterward pat me on the butt and say, "Well, you better go now." Boy did I feel rather cheap. I mean, I could tell then that there were no feeling there, she was just trying to get me off.

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Registered: 10-17-2004
Sat, 11-06-2004 - 11:03am
Lol....this just happened to me last night.....my bf said "That was incredible, thank you". I was just discussing it with a friend last night who said her husband has said that to her, too....