hand stimulation of a woman during inter

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hand stimulation of a woman during inter
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Wed, 09-29-2004 - 8:04am
Do you women find that men are clumbsy when it comes to stimulating your clit with their fingers while you are having intercourse? ie.. rubing on it to hard, too much direct pressure etc? Any suggestions?
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Registered: 12-30-2002
Wed, 09-29-2004 - 9:55am
Honestly,... Yes i think that men can be clumsy when it comes to stimulating the clit while intercourse. My Bf tries to do it but hes so caught up in what hes doing, that he can go too hard or not exactly hitting the "spot". So i sort of just move his hand and i continue so he can focus more on his actions. Its funny, because supposedly i was the first girl hes ever had that touched her clit during sex, he thought that everything was vaginal aswell, and the very first couple times we ever had sex, he thought he couldnt pleasure me enough, so i had to stimulate myself (and he assumed i was orgasming from my hand). I finally explained to him that i need both, and both is what makes me climax. Now he has learned and appreciates the fact that i can get off by him... but i think i have to train him better in the clit touching department lol.. Make him think like a woman, do everything softer and less direct. :)
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Wed, 09-29-2004 - 10:31am
It depends on what position we are in.

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Wed, 09-29-2004 - 12:37pm
i wouldn't call it clumsy. men aren't mindreaders, so if it's not to the woman's liking she needs to communicate how she likes it. i don't particularly like clitoral stimulation during intercourse, even though i don't orgasm from intercourse alone. the dual stimulation is over-stimulating for me. i prefer that the guy be inside me but still (not thrusting) while my clit is stimulated and then he can start thrusting as i'm coming or just before i come.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 09-29-2004 - 6:02pm
Clumsy? No, but since my needs change during intercourse, as in needing more or less stimulation as we go along, it's usually just easier for me to do it myself. Not to mention that he's a little distracted at the time.

As someone pointed out, he's not a mindreader so it's hard to say that it's a result of clumsiness. Sometimes it helps if I keep my hand on his fingers to guide him though.