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| Thu, 09-30-2004 - 2:45pm |
Hi, I'm new to the messageboards. I have a question. I'm interested in trying anal sex but I'm really nervous because of the pain. Is it dangerous to use an anal desensitizer lotion for the pain? How well do the lotions work?
Thanks in advance for your replies.

This is one act that you must be relaxed and comfortable with or it WILL be painful. And pain is the body's signal that something's wrong and possibly doing damage, so if you numb the pain, you're removing your last line of defense against lacerations, abrasions, tearing and possible infections, so you don't want to do that. Instead of numbing your tissues, spend plenty of time in becoming fully aroused, using LOTS of lube to ease the penetration.
IF you decide to try it, then start slowly and move at your own pace and comfort level, perhaps starting with digital penetration first. But your partner should understand that you'll be in control and be willing to stop if you feel pain or discomfort.
Very very common question here, thankfully for you, lol, so there's great advice headed your way, I'm sure. :)
Here's a couple of links that I've read from others to be pretty helpful:
5 Myths of Anal Sex Uncovered
http://www.ivillage.com/relationships/experts/experts_by_month/articles/0,,413030_443231,00.html
6 Do's and Don'ts of Anal Sex
http://www.ivillage.com/relationships/experts/sexpro/articles/0,,413030_272744,00.html
Hope the links and the replies provide all the info you need. Good luck!
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