BF's majorly delayed orgasm

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Registered: 10-03-2004
BF's majorly delayed orgasm
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Sun, 10-03-2004 - 12:39am
Ok, I know that some guys can experience delayed orgasms with certain stimuli, but my guy has trouble across the board. Intercourse, oral or masturbation - it takes him at least an hour of continuous stimulation to climax.

I'm hoping someone could offer some excellent advice. Not to be indelicate, but my jaw would be most grateful....

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 10-03-2004 - 8:23pm
He definitly has a problem and in turn, so do you. It just doesn't seem normal. Perhaps he doesn't get his mind in tune with what he is doing. Sex is 90% in the mind. I am 74 and my wife knows exactly what turns my mind on, so if I am taking a little extra time, she knows what explicit sexy things to say to put me over to an orgasm within an extremey short time.
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Sun, 10-03-2004 - 9:57pm

It could be as GiGi said, his mind is not completely into it.


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Mon, 10-04-2004 - 2:57pm
Great advice from the others, and thats a GREAT link that Tish provided as well.

I myself take forever sometimes, whereas other times I only WISH I could last longer. If your bf takes an hour or so every single time, then I agree it'd be wiser that he get check out by the doctor just to make sure.

If he is cleared by the doctor, then its just one of those things where communication must be clear in regards to how tired you are. Many many men face similar situations when it comes to foreplay for their ladies or when it comes to satisfying them, even with multiple orgasms. Our human body parts can only handle so much or last so long, so communicating to him that you've done all you could is simply going to have to be accomplished itself somehow.

Sometimes, getting yourself to simply last longer while pleasuring him using higher energy draining techniques in an effort to hurry him along is the real key. If you two agree that he may not be able to climax from all that you do for him but that he is still able to enjoy nevertheless, then I've read multiple times from other couples that sometimes thats just how it goes.

My question would be how long does it really take him if he masturbates. If he is able to orgasm significantly faster through his technique, then that "could" possibly rule out other problems than technique itself, which renders your situation to some hope. In any rate, talking this over with him should help reveal more possibilities for you two.

Good luck!

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