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what does this mean??
| Mon, 10-04-2004 - 9:00am |
Hi, I'm in a fairly new relationship and have a question. We've only been dating for about 2 months, and kinda taking things slow which I think is good. Last week, on our last date, I stayed over and we did everything (oral) but didn't have sex. So I'm wondering why it stopped there, cause he didn't initiate anything after that. We cuddled up and fell asleep. The date itself was great and we spent the next day together as well. So I guess I'm just confused. Do men feel intercourse is much more intimate than oral and perhaps he still wants to wait for that final step? I guess I thought that oral usually led to sex, but maybe it's different for everyone.
thanks in advance!
nikki
thanks in advance!
nikki

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If you're intimate with him, then you should be able to talk to him about it. Maybe he wasn't sure you were "up for" that. Maybe he's worried about pregnancy. Only he can answer the "maybes".
Another thought....if you "finished" him during oral, then maybe HE wasn't "up for" intercourse! (Pun intended)
You did have sex, you didn't have intercourse.
I for one feel that oral sex is actually somewhat more intimate than intercourse. However, whatever anyone says here is pure guessword as everyone is different.
Peace.
Scott.
If you've gotten to this point of intimacy, you need to start talking about all the issues. If you can't talk about it, then you shouldn't be doing it.
You won't know how HE feels unless you ask him. It's imperative that you discuss STD's, BC, and while you're at tell him what you said here. I'm curious, after you realized that he wasn't going to proceed to intercourse, did you attempt oral or manual on him to relieve him, or did you just let it go? Even if you hadn't had a condom, manual would suffice.
It's never bad to discuss these things...it's often bad when you don't because assumptions are then made and 99 times out of a hundred your assumption will be wrong.
Peace.
Scott.
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