the "size" topic....

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the "size" topic....
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Tue, 10-05-2004 - 1:41pm
i have been reading alot of posts here and i see alot of debate about the size of vaginas. i see alot of people say that all vaginas are the same and "one size fits all" and stuff like that but i totally disagree. i think every woman is different. i have talked to women friends and i openly talk to my SO about this. alot of women aslo say that it has to do with how arroused you are and i also dont agree with this! i am one of those women who gets exterememly wet but even so i am still tight! my SO only uses 1 finger during foreplay and so i asked him "why?" and his reply was "because you have a lil coochie" i told him i wanted him to use 2 fingers so saturday night he did and i asked him what it felt like and he said he felt like he was hurting me because it was so tight around his fingers. in another post some people thought that body size has to do with vagina size and i agree this is not the case as it also is not with men. my SO is 5'10 and 150lbs and is a lil over 9! i am 5'7 (tall for a woman) and overweight and yet he tells me how "small" i am. he said he used 3 fingers on his ex! i can not imagine 3 or 4 fingers let alone a fist lol. i vaginally delivered a 7 and a half pound baby and i have been having sex with his 9 inch package for 5 years and he still can not slide right in no matter how wet and arroused i am. also i see people saying that too much lube is not good and that sometimes that is the reason for a man not being able to cum? i was always told wetter was better and even when i am soaking wet to the point that it is dripping off of us and leaves a puddle in the bed we both still have lots of feeling! i even asked him this last night "even when i am dripping wet do you still feel me all around " he said "hell yeah". he did have a girl that he could not cum with sometimes and he said it was definately her that it wasnt good! i asked him "why" and he simply said "she had a big coochie" i am not saying that is every mans problem that cant cum but definately plays a part and her vagina must have been pretty big for a man with a 9 and a half not to enjoy! i think that evryone is different and you need to find the perfect fit. i feel like our parts fit perfect...even though he cant slide right in , after a few minutes it is a perfect glove for his manhood. i always though that loose meant that you were a slut and that you have been with alot of guys but that is not the case everyone is different i have even heard of virgins having big holes. obviously they were born that way! but anyway sorry this got long i had to share my feelings on these things! i hope nothing i said was taken offensively! lauren

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Tue, 10-05-2004 - 2:10pm
The whole size topic gets old....what I don't get is why people tend to focus on the length of penis's. When men think a women is 'tight' that would be referring to girth not length, when women feel filled by a man that would be because of girth not length so why are so many people stressing about if they are long enough? It is like comparing oranges and apples. Of course all women can't be the same exact size inside, why would that one aspect of women's body be identical when nothing else is?
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Tue, 10-05-2004 - 2:42pm

From a few sites I viewed (females first was one of them), although in appearance they are all different, the average size of the vagina differs by less than an inch.


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Tue, 10-05-2004 - 6:26pm
so you would rather guys make threads asking if the girth they have can please a women??
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Tue, 10-05-2004 - 6:32pm
Oh believe me, penis length, girth, size and everything else about them

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Tue, 10-05-2004 - 6:46pm
Amen to that! LOL! ;)

If anyone is interested, then perhaps we could link them to some of those discussions?

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Wed, 10-06-2004 - 1:53am
I AM THE ONE WHO STARTED THE WHOLE "SIZE" TOPIC (MY POSTS ARE CALLED "VAGINA TIGHTNESS" & "8 INCH D*CK). THE REASON I SAY MY "STUFF" IS LOOSE IS B/C THE OTHER DAY MY MAN SAID, "I THOUGHT YOUR VAGINA* WOULD BE TIGHTER." I WAS INSULTED. I FELT HURT. SO, THIS IS WHY I ASSUME THAT IT'S LOOSE... OTHERWISE, HE WOULD NOT HAVE MADE THAT COMMENT. I LOOKED AT HIM AND SAID, "WHAT? WAS IT TIGHTER LAST TIME?" (WE HADN'T HAD SEX FOR A WEEK BEFORE THAT NIGHT-) AND HE SAID, "YEAH." HOW "DEEP" YOU ARE DEPENDS ON HOW MANY PEOPLE YOU HAVE BEEN WITH. AM I RIGHT? OR AM I RIGHT? (BEING SARCASTIC) HOW "LOOSE" OR "TIGHT" YOU ARE ALSO DEPENDS ON HOW MANY PEOPLE YOU'VE BEEN WITH. I DON'T KNOW ABOUT THE BODY WEIGHT/ SIZE THING. I STAND 5'3" 1/2, WEIGH 114#, AND I AM NOT THAT TIGHT... I KNOW B/C I CAN SLIDE 3 FINGERS IN. WHAT CAN I DO TO IMPROVE THIS? KEGEL EXERCISES? OR SOULD I GET A "HUSBAND'S STITCH?" MAYBE I SHOULD CONSIDER SURGERY... I WANNA BE TIGHT AS I WAS WHEN I WAS A VIRGIN! LOL
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Wed, 10-06-2004 - 2:29am
lala, I have added you to "my friend" list... is that all right?

How old are you? You sound young by the way you talk. I am 23. Just turned 23. My man is 8"... or so he says. His stuff doesn't hurt. Maybe it's b/c my stuff's "big." Well, he says "it's not that tight." God, I wish I was like you! lol
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Wed, 10-06-2004 - 10:09am
Yes this topic does get tedious doesn't it. Although I am sure that vaginas do vary in size between women, there are several problems with the whole vagina size topic.

1) people don't like to talk about it because they feel it just puts one more pressure on womens' body image and self esteem.

2) it is impossible to quantify. Unlike penis size which can be described basically by two measurements, vaginal size varies a lot. It varies along its length, the vagina is not a simple cylinder. It varies with state of arousal, but not linearly and the effects of arousal are diffenent depending on the part of the vagina (e.g. the opening vs fornices etc.). The vagina is internal, and it is flexible making it almost impossible to measure. It varies with life events and developemental state, eg Puberty, menopause, childbirth, 2nd childbirth, loss of virginity, etc. Parameters of the vagina are affected by hormonal state which varies with menstral cycles, stress, medication etc. The vagina is surrounded by several smooth muscle layers and the opening is surrounded skeletal muscles called the PC muscle which can be toned, contracted, relaxed, exercised, out of shape, injured etc. Even If someone came up with some sort of clever aparatus to measure vaginal dimensions I imagine the results would not be two numbers like a penis but rather a three dimensional colour coded graph which most people would not understand, no one would intuitively grasp, and would not be available for the average woman to compare herself to.

3)IMHO a lot of men say nasty things about that as some sort of manifestation of misogynist feelings that they have. They feel angry about pressure that they feel on their size and performance and make those remarks with an intention to hurt and take pressure of themselves, although they may not realize it.

I remember getting in an argument once with two of my roomates about this. We were at a strip club for a birthday party and they kept saying some pretty ignorant things. One was that women became more"loose" with increased sexual partners. I told them that was stupid because why wouldn't that happen if a woman had the same amount of sex with just one parnter. So then they said it probably does happen that way. I replied that is stupid too, because the vagina is elastic conective tissue and muscle which is not like playdough that doesn't return to it's original size when you stretch it. Then they seemed to think that the shape of the inner lips showed how loose a woman was. I laughed. Then I saw that they were serious. So then I laughed at them and said that they should look at an anatomy book and that the shape of women's lips is determined developementally before they ever have sex, that is just the way they are and has nothing to do with the vagina. Not surprisingly those guys were virgins. I think they'll stay that way for a while too.

There is almost nothing that I think is not worth investigating but this comes pretty close. I would like to know how much of a difference kegel exercises make though. I think not as much as people might think because only the PC muscles are under conscious control and they only affect the vagina around the opening and a little ways in. They can be toned and excersized but I doubt that would affect the inner 2/3 which is where the head of the penis is during sex. If I'm having intercourse and I have trouble cumming I sometimes thrust so that my glands are only shallowly penetrating at times and that gives me more stimulation.

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Wed, 10-06-2004 - 10:59am

The number of partners or how many times you have had sex has nothing to do with how loose or tight you are.


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Wed, 10-06-2004 - 11:28am

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