abt sex fantasy...

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Registered: 01-17-2005
abt sex fantasy...
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Mon, 01-17-2005 - 10:55am
hm... well, quite recently, i was chatting with a girl abt masturbation and sex... she started the topic first... then i have some fantasy abt her being naked and masturbating... is this normal? anyway, i also have a very strong desire of having sex as i am still a virgin and did not have any gf... well, i keep having this fantasy of having sex... can anyone tell me how to solve this fantasy?
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Mon, 01-17-2005 - 11:26am

Fantasies are very normal and the desire


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 01-18-2005 - 10:27am

Yes, fantasizing is normal but "solve" a fantasy? I assume you mean make it stop. You can try to consciously block it with other thoughts but often it will appear in your dreams.

Everyone fantasizes to some degree, at least occasionally. And thinking or fantasizing about sex, when you're not having it, or even when you ARE, is completely normal. We're sexual beings with an innate drive to copulate.

Is there any reason why you can't use those fantasies to masturbate until you DO have a partner?

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Registered: 01-17-2005
Tue, 01-18-2005 - 11:04am
hm... there is a reason why i dun want to think so much abt sex... cos i am still a virgin and consider quite young... well, just passed 18... so i am quite scared tt i may think too much abt sex and being curious abt it, i may go for prostitution to look for sex...
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Tue, 01-18-2005 - 11:08am

At 18, it is completely normal to be preoccupied with sex. Why not just masturbate to take care of some of that pent up sexual energy so that you DON'T feel tempted to make bad choices?

But even if you don't, or can't, for some reason, you've probably already experienced wet dreams. That's when you ejaculate in your sleep after a sexy dream. Your body WILL find a way to release that energy with your conscious help or without it! LOL!




Edited 1/18/2005 3:13 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001