How to initiate a hand Job

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How to initiate a hand Job
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Fri, 01-21-2005 - 9:44pm
What is the best way to initiate a mutual hand job with a female friend? What would not offend the lot of you?

 

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Fri, 01-21-2005 - 10:19pm
A female friend as in just a friend or do you mean a girlfriend, a female you are dating, in a relationship with, etc?

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Fri, 01-21-2005 - 10:32pm

I assume that this is a female friend that you are kinda, sorta dating and planning on getting intimate with or more anyway?

I don't think that it's something that you can be subtle about. She's either going to be comfortable with the idea or she isn't. If she is comfortable with it then making out with you should proceed quickly to the handjob stage without too much input from you.
If you're kissing and making out then I think that you can only try to guide her hand to your groin and see how that goes. I wouldn't force her in any way. If her hand is heading in that direction you could either unzip or suggest that she play with you to speed things up a little. I certainly wouldn't come straight out and tell her that she's welcome to give you a handjob anytime.

If you're not at the making out stage, then you're screwed. If she doesn't feel comfortable enough to kiss you and make out with you then it's highly unlikely that she'll feel comfortable whipping your penis out of your trousers and jacking you off.

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Fri, 01-21-2005 - 10:34pm
I want to say all of the above, but lets stick with a dating situation.

 

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Fri, 01-21-2005 - 10:46pm

<<< then you're screwed>>>


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Fri, 01-21-2005 - 11:51pm

I'd say that if you're not "friendly" enough with this "friend" to have made some overtures in that direction.....like kissing and touching with clothes on....and you don't know if she'd be "offended"....then I'd say you should hold off till you've worked your way up to it.

I'd say as Westridge said......guide her hand. If she pulls it away...the answer is NO.

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Sat, 01-22-2005 - 12:29pm

I agree with the general consensus on this one. Unless she's a friend that you've already had some physical contact with, ie. kissing, hugging, fondling, etc. then you should start there. In other words, she should know that you're sexually interested.

IF you have already been somewhat intimate with her, then just take it to the next level of manual contact with her genitals, and allow her to touch yours IF she wants to. It should feel like a natural progression, though.




Edited 1/22/2005 12:31 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
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Sun, 01-23-2005 - 2:21am
I guess I was just lucky. We moved from kissing and hugging to me fingering her. She enquired about the bulge in my pants. We were 15 or 16 at the time. Then she asked if she could have a look at it because she'd never seen one before except for her little brother. I said fine if I can see "yours". She got undressed and I got undressed and we sat side-by-side and I began touching her gently all over. She asked if she could touch mine, then asked how. I got to give her a lesson. We were kissing, and she asked if she could stop kissing me and watch me "shoot sperm". Well, she got her wish. And that was my first hand-job. It was an interesting summer even tho we never had intercourse.
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Sun, 01-23-2005 - 3:37am

Jim,

I guess my reaction is "if you have to ask, you ain't ready." That is a subject that I never gave any thought; it either happened or it didn't and it happened enough to keep me happy-still does.

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Registered: 01-03-2004
Sun, 01-23-2005 - 12:38pm
There's nothing like playing show and tell. It's always a big step for a woman to reach down and stroke that thing. Not knowing if you're doing it right. It's fantastic to watch a guy squirt his stuff. Does a guy care where it squirts? Like does he mind if it lands on himself, or should a lady catch it in her palm?
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Sun, 01-23-2005 - 1:03pm
"Lucky?" No, I would say that's just the normal progression of sexual attraction, isn't it? I think that's how most of us experience it the 1st time.

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