Y does my bf cum so quick
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Y does my bf cum so quick
| Wed, 02-16-2005 - 11:20am |
Last nite i was with my bf and after i gave him a back rub i gave him a bj. within 5-10 minutes he cam. He said that he does not know y he comes so quick with me. He also told me with his ex-gf he didn't to that.
Also he said that he could go for a good hour having sex with his ex and with me it's like 10 minutes. Y is this happening to him?
Please can someone clear this up for us. It's driving us crazy figuring all this out.

I'd say he's very turned on and excited by you.
That's a good thing.
Also, most men wish they could go on for 5-10 minutes.
He probably wasn't into his ex as much as with you.
Most men last about 2-5 minutes from what I've read.
He can, train, himself to last longer though. There are plenty of articles about it on the net.
If it's still too fast for you, do more foreplay and have him get you there orally or manually.
Although 5 - 10 minutes is not considered pre-mature ejaculation, here is an article on how he can control him self.
If your timing is accurate, I think that he's doing just fine. Why would he be worried about how long he lasts during a BJ? As long as he enjoys himself and you don't get a sore jaw then I would have thought that 5-10 minutes was good for everyone. Don't forget that the massage will have relaxed him and therefore probably made him cum quicker too.
Ten minutes intercourse sounds fair. Off the top of my head I think that 3-5 minutes is about average for the majority of men during intercourse. An hour? Well, I'm not a woman but don't you think that everything would get a bit worn out after a whole hour of pounding away? As long as you are satisfied and he's happy that you're happy, I wouldn't get worried about it. I think that you'll find that after time he will get back to what he considers normal. More than likely if you and him are fairly new, it's because he's excited and really aroused being with a new partner.
i wouldn't worry too much either. how long have u guys been together? how many times have u had sex? e.g. if i have sex 20 times with my gf, i'll probably last somewhere between 5-10 mins 7-8 times (and u can always get going again after a bit if the mood's right), somewhere between 20-45mins 7-8 times, other times i last a lot longer and might not even come at all...
i enjoy it a lot each time and so does she. if i don't last much, i always please her some other way, we both know we can get a longer love-making session next time (which might be just a bit later or the next day). take it easy and don't stress about it.
it might also be that u stimulate him in a different/new way both phisically and mentally, that u feel different to him and he might need some time and "exercise" to get used to u. new body, new person, different way of having sex, different reactions/timing. it's quite normal.
read up on some techniques together and have fun practising!