Male G. Spot Re-Action

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Male G. Spot Re-Action
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Fri, 02-18-2005 - 8:16am



I wanted to find out if a reaction my boyfriend had the other night was "normal". We were in the middle of forepley and he kept taking my hand and putting it on his anus. I had read about the male G spot and how to insert your finger in and stroke the prostate gland....so I gave it a try. He went crazy! His entire body reacted. He got so intense that he clawed my back! He has a lot more sexual experience than I do but he said he had never felt anything like that before. Immediately he lost his erection and every part of him just started drawing up. He said he could feel himselt losing the erection but everything else just felt so good. He said it felt like he was orgasaming all over his body. He did not ejeculate until we had intercorse. I watched him the entire time I was stroking his prostate and he was really in to it. Of course afterwards I felt like a sex expert!!!!(Ha Ha) Was this normal or how have you guys experienced this?


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Registered: 05-27-2004
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 9:16am

If that was his reaction, then it's "normal" for him. There's no such thing a "normal" when it comes to sex. He liked it......he loved it. GREAT! Now you know what to do to make him crazy. That doesn't mean that every man in the world likes it. I wouldn't try it on your next partner unless you know he's "into" it. With another man, you might get a very different reaction, even horror or disgust.

We all react differently to various stimuli......women's orgasms aren't all the same! And our reaction varies from time to time. Next time, he might have a different reaction to the same thing.

Rather than worry about what's "normal" and what's not.......all you need to concern yourself with is that he likes it, you like doing it, and you're both happy.

Whatever two consenting adults do in privacy is "normal" for them. The qualifying words of course are "consenting" and "adults".

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Registered: 11-15-2003
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 10:00am

Great reply from GTB as always Carla.

This "normal" question comes up a lot on these websites: is this a normal size? Is this a normal reaction? Is it normal to like this or that? Is it normal to feel this emotion? Everything is normal if it doesn't break the boundries of yourself or another, or (as GTB said) violate someone who does not, or cannot consent. Problems only happen when you begin to judge yourself or another, then guilt sets in and really makes everyone unhappy.

Back to your original post: some guys really go for the prostate massage. I get them now and again in conjunction with oral and I like them, but it is a different orgasm and feeling than other orgasms. Men can orgasm without erections or without ejaculating and it sounds like that's what happened with you SO. Prostate massage is not something that I would want every time or even a majority of a time and my wife seems to know just when it is the right thing to do (I have no idea how she knows, but she does). GTB was wise when she said (I'm paraphrasing) all things change...because they do. Just keep this technique in your sexual "tool box" and know that it's something that you can do when the mood hits you.

Sounds like you both had fun.

Good luck.
Scott.

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Registered: 09-02-2004
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 10:13am
I don't know that you can consider anyone's reactions during sex "normal" or not, but in my experience, I've kind had the feeling of like really intense goose bumps. Sometimes when the man's anus is stimulated during sex, especially if he hasn't had that done before, it triggers a different response, separate from any penile stimulation, and that might be why he felt he was losing his erection. Once he sort of recognizes the feelings, his body will connect the two more, and they won't feel so different....IMHO
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 10:28am

I agree with the others, what happens to him is normal for him, different people react in different ways.


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Registered: 09-25-2004
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 10:50am

Hi, Carla!

My DH loves it when I give him the jolly good prostate massage. We mix it up and do different things with it. Sometimes I get a little wild and naughty. He loves it. It depends on the man.

As to whether its normal, who's to say what's normal in this day and age. What I might think is normal another might find bizarre and another might find disgusting. Normalcy depends on you and what you perceive to be normal or abnormal. No one person can tell you if its normal because we all perceive normal to be different things. All I can say is be the jungle explorer and dare new adventures regardless of what people think. Only you know what is normal to you. Don't worry about opinions. You know what they say.."Opinions are like @$$holes, everybody's got them." And we all have opinions on normal.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 11:24am
Yes, Carla, some men love rectal stimulation and some men believe it's only the desire of gay men. So always ASK before inserting anything anywhere. Or wait to be prompted, as your guy did.
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Registered: 01-10-2005
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 6:01pm

"Opinions are like @$$holes, everybody's got them."

...and some like their's stimulated!