Ever had sex......

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Registered: 09-25-2004
Ever had sex......
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Sun, 02-20-2005 - 12:59pm
...with the kids in the house? I mean, not asleep, but awake? My DH and I have only done it once and that was because he was about to leave in 3 hours for two weeks..He told DD that we were going to get dressed and to just chill out a few moments..Then, w/o my knowing a thing, he's got the door shut and locked, and me flat on my back and going to town like this was the last time we'd ever make love again...I felt kind of guilty for it and thought it was disrespectful to our unsuspecting DD...This doesn't make us bad people, does it? When we do get frisky and in the mood, its always at night when she's asleep. Sometimes, DH slips into the shower with me where we make love sometimes. But, we're always making sure that DD is asleep before we make love...Anybody else slipped up and made love to their DH/SO/DW while the kids weren't so soundly asleep but playing in their rooms?

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Sun, 02-20-2005 - 1:32pm

We did it many, many times.


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Registered: 01-08-2003
Sun, 02-20-2005 - 2:16pm

We use to have sex when our daughter was awake. We taught her to knock before entering our room. This worked well until she was 20 and walked in on us. She hasn't been foolish enough to do that again, lol. Actually I think it was my husband that was more embarrassed than our daughter. She wasn't living at home at the time and so he hadn't locked the door to the bedroom. Now he locks the door no matter what time of the day or night. She scarred the poor man, lol.

I don't think you need to feel guilty about having some play time with your husband while your children are awake. As long as they are properly supervised and safe, then there is no reason for you to avoid spending a little alone time with your husband.

Robin

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Registered: 09-25-2004
Sun, 02-20-2005 - 2:22pm
It has taken forever to teach DD that. She's the type that will just barge into a room, not caring. I finally told her that I don't do that to her, so she needn't do that to me. We lock the door, so its not like we're just asking for her to come in. She always has her door shut anyhow..She's into that whole privacy thing and she's 5!!! Thanks for making me feel better about it! This afternoon DH and I were laying in bed after we made it..(Y'know what they've said, "You made your bed, now you must lie in it")..We were huggling (a hug/cuddle/snuggle in one..I came up with it) and then he started kissing me..I'd have my head on his chest and he'd grab me by my hair and pull me up to kiss him (he knows I like it)..We rolled around and lightly made out..We hadn't seen eachother in days. Well, he said, "If we don't stop, I'm going to wind up sc#$wing you." Of course I smiled innocently and said, "Why not?" Of course his reasoning was DD being in the house and awake. I agreed with him, though I wanted him so bad (my libido is in high gear all the time) and much to my dismay I let him go take his shower. I did purposefully dress in front of him so that he could have one last look before tonight..But, thanks again for not making me feel like a bad mom for wanting my husband though the child is awake.
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Sun, 02-20-2005 - 2:52pm
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Sun, 02-20-2005 - 3:07pm

It depends on the age of the child or children. You certainly can't let a two year old run around unsupervised, but a child of 8 or 10 can be taught that a closed door means privacy, and to respect that.

It all depends on the safety of the child. When you become a parent, THAT's what's important. Otherwise, you wait until they're sleeping. Of course, there's no guarantee that they won't wake up and come into your room, either.

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Registered: 01-08-2003
Sun, 02-20-2005 - 3:20pm

I can't imagine relaxing enough to have sex while a two-year-old is loose in the house. I'm imagining a scene out of Cat in the Hat, lol. I agree around age 8 probably even age 7, a child will easily learn respect for a closed door. The child in question is 5 and at that age she is safe in her home without her parents watching her every move but isn't likely to respect a closed door. A locked door will keep her from barging in and give the parents some time to regroup should she decide she NEEDS their attention. I remember my daughter at age 5 would slide her fingers under the door when I was in the bathroom to get my attention, lol. However it wasn't until she was 20 that she managed to barge in at an inopportune time. I tried to make the point with my daughter that my rules were created to protect her, I think barging in on her dad and I having sex reinforced that point, lol.

Robin

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Registered: 10-16-2004
Sun, 02-20-2005 - 9:11pm
Yes. That's why Sponge Bob was created, to give children of varying ages something fun to watch together while parents are upstairs in bed. : )
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Registered: 10-13-2004
Sun, 02-20-2005 - 10:04pm

Think of it as an early payback for when in 10 years time, she's sneaking around trying to shag her boyfriend while YOU are awake.

Oh, those were the days LOL

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Mon, 02-21-2005 - 10:00am

It is too bad that now you can't leave your child alone to watch TV. Alot of kids shows are introducing topics that young children don't need to deal with. I can't even let the kids watch PBS alone anymore. I have to watch with my hand on the off button.

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Registered: 09-20-2004
Mon, 02-21-2005 - 11:09am

Personally I don't think there is any problem making love to your partner even if the kid's are still awake or in the house.

Invariably you need to be ready for interuptions which I find just add's to the urgancy
Although my love does need the door barricaded( no keys) and music on lol

But at least your still in the house some ppl's do much worse
cheers Jacobiteone

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