I am being naive here?

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I am being naive here?
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Wed, 02-23-2005 - 11:58am
I have never had a girlfriend suggest strapping on a dildo and doing me, but I see talk of it quite often here and the fantasy seems to be quite popular (although I am beginning to beleive its usually guys who are posing a women in this instances). Could REAL women out there tell me if this is a fantasy of yours or not and why? Thanks.

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Wed, 02-23-2005 - 12:26pm

Aren't you the same Jason that was questioning if women *really* use the Jack Rabbit vibrator?


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Wed, 02-23-2005 - 2:39pm

Another "real" woman here. No, it's not one of my fantasies personally. But I do know that many women really do fantasize about doing this because of many intimate discussions with my friends over the years. And I know that many men fantasize about having it done to them.

I don't think wondering about the sexual experience of the opposite sex is that unusual.

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Wed, 02-23-2005 - 3:48pm

J, not only are there women out there who actually DO fantasize about this, but according to what I've read in the past, many of them have admitted fantasizing and even enjoying using those on each other as well.

Always seems to be more diversity out there than we think we know about no matter how experienced.

 

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Wed, 02-23-2005 - 4:45pm

You say that you have actually had many women tell you that really do fantasize about doing a guy this way? How does this even come up in a conversation!

Any details appreciated. Why do I find this so hard to believe? I would like to hear from at least a few other women on this to really believe women fantasize about this. Somehow I can just not imagine women have this desire. Thanks.

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Wed, 02-23-2005 - 5:54pm

I have had some very intimate conversations in my day and when there's trust and discretion in a friendship, then there are all kinds of opportunities to share. I just don't understand why this is so difficult for you to believe though. Women have all kinds of fantasies, just as men do.

While there's obviously no physical pleasure to be gained from using a dildo on a man, the visuals and taboo factor of the act, probably add to the thrill for many women. As well as learning what it feels like to be the penetraTOR rather than the penetraTED. And just because a woman may fantasize about the act, doesn't mean that she wants to make it reality either!




Edited 2/23/2005 5:57 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
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Thu, 02-24-2005 - 12:06am

It's the same as the discussion about the jackrabbit vibrator that you intiated - No, not every woman fantasises about it. Heck, there aren't even very many women here, on a board reserved for sexual discussions, on a website that targets hundreds of thousands of women, talking about it. But those that DO want to talk about it may well search for a messageboard where they can discuss it. And voila! Some of them pop up here.

I can't see what you find so difficult to believe about SOME women wanting to use a dildo on their partner. In the world of sex, tastes and interests and turn-on's are as varied as the people that have them. Why WOULDN'T at least a few women be interested in it? After-all, there are plenty of guys that love using a vibrator on their women - actually holding it with their hand and moving it around - and they don't get any physical pleasure from doing that. Why wouldn't some women want to use a dildo on their man even though they don't get much physical pleasure from it?

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Thu, 02-24-2005 - 8:52am

Yes, Jason, you are naive! Of course, everyone told you that after your previous "rabbit" post. You are also strangely obsessed with the idea that posters here lie about which gender they are. What would be the point of doing that?

You say you've never had a girlfriend suggest that to you. Have you ever HAD a girlfriend? If so, have you ever talked to any of them about fantasies? Do YOU have fantasies? If you do, tell us what they are!

With all the adult web sites and stores that are out there, I guess they sell this kind of equipment, along with vibrators, whips, chains, leather lingerie, crotchless panties, and adult videos.....or they wouldn't be in business.

I've never personally had that fantasy......in fact I have very few fantasies, because the ones I've had, I've acted on. Maybe some of my fantasies would knock your socks off! But, that's ok, because we all have different fantasies.

I mentioned this the last time around, and I'll reiterate......you need to get out more! Your first trip ought to be to an adult store!

PS: You see talk of it quite often here? In the 5 years I've been hanging around these boards, I've only seen it mentioned once or twice. Is it possible that this is a fantasy of YOURS, and you WANT to see it mentioned more? Is it possible that you're really a female pretending to be a guy?

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Thu, 02-24-2005 - 9:25am

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Thu, 02-24-2005 - 10:05am

Apparently, it made the top ten list at #2.

http://www.askmen.com/love/vanessa/27_love_secrets.html

Personally, it's never been a fantasy of mine to wear a strap on, although using a dildo on him has--if you can see the difference.

Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Thu, 02-24-2005 - 1:51pm

Maybe you have such a difficult time believing that a woman would fantasize about doing this because you're a man. And I doubt YOU fantasize about doing it to a man (although, many men do) but you have to remember, you're talking about WOMEN and their secret thoughts.

No one on this board has a reason to lie about this, much less our genders, since we're neither promoting it or condemning it either.




Edited 2/24/2005 5:22 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001

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