Is it the same?
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Is it the same?
| Fri, 02-25-2005 - 8:32am |
I was wondering, do guys have sex basically the same way with each relationship. I know some would have to do with what the female will let go on, but like if a guy likes to talk or slap your rump, will he want to do that in all his relationships? (Along with other stuff too)

If a person (man or woman) enjoys and is into certain kinds of sex, then chances are that is what their wants and needs are and they will want it in all relationships.
Well, I think for me, I've always kind of tailored my sex towards what the women I've been with have wanted. As I grew more experienced, I realized that not every woman likes the same things, so just because one likes her butt slapped, doesn't mean the next one will. However, another important lesson I've learned is just because someone SAYS they don't like their butt slapped, doesn't mean they wouldn't like it if they tried it again.
But, the biggest lesson I've learned, and I can look back and see who I had the best sex with, is that the more you talk to your partner about likes and dislikes, the better sex you will have.
I think all of us will continue to have our own personalities, in or out of a relationship, but we're also highly influenced by those we love and want to please, too. So, naturally, we'll tend to adjust our behavior, at least to some degree, to our partner's likes and dislikes and they to ours.
But it depends on the behavior or act in question, and how strongly each partner feels about it, as to whether it will continue from relationship to relationship or not.
Edited 2/25/2005 10:51 am ET ET by katmandoo2001
I agree with Kat and Jhun on this one.
Peoples' sex lives with different partners are not identical. There could be common themes running through them, but each one is different.
John
Every man and every woman has their own likes and dislikes when it comes to sex. Sex is sex, but some people, men AND women, like basic sex embellished by certain things.....
Some people are very turned on by certain acts....and they will carry those things into a new relationship. Of course, their new partner might not like something that they do, so there's an adjustment to be made. That's why people have to learn to talk openly about their sexual activities.
Some people are very turned on by bondage. But certainly no one with any sense would go into sex for the first time, and tie up their partner without ASKING if it's ok. And, if it's not ok, then it might be a deal breaker.
You might meet a man who loves anal sex, and you wouldn't do that if your life depended on it. Again, no man is just going to DO it.....at least not a decent man. They ask first. If your answer is NO.....he might not want to hang around. And you are entitled to your likes and dislikes, just as he is.
>>but like if a guy likes to talk or slap your rump, will he want to do that in all his relationships?<<
I don't think that it's any different than any other facet of a person's life. We all have a personality and within that personality we have certain likes and dislikes and wants and needs.
If a guy likes slapping a butt he'll probably do it with the next g/f - at least until she tells him that she doesn't like it. If he likes rough sex, he's not going to really be into soft and slow sex - but he might be quite happy to adjust his style and soften up a bit if the g/f doesn't like rough sex. If he likes the missionary position, he's not going to suddenly dislike it. If he likes anal sex, he's not going to suddenly dislike it - but he may accept that his g/f won't ever do it.