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| Fri, 02-25-2005 - 10:09am |
Hey everyone!
I just have a quick question. I'm 23 and single. I always practice safe sex as far as intercourse goes. As far as oral sex though, I do not use a condom. I have been in a couple serious relationships and it wasn't an issue then, because I knew my partner was STD free. Recently I've started dating a new man, and we haven't talked about sex much yet, but I know the prospects of it are around the corner in the near future. I wouldn't have intercourse without a condom, but until recently, I hadn't really considered using a condom for oral sex. However, I do understand and realize the reality of STD's being transmitted through this manner.
That said, I'm wondering if anyone has any experience or suggestions on how to approach this subject with a new guy-- one that you've only been seeing for a bit, and haven't yet been intimate with, but heading in that direction. Do you use condoms for oral sex? What do you all think about this?
Thanks, nice meeting all of you!
PS- Sorry about the cl- hat... I was a leader back in the day of another board!

I've never been in the situation where STDs would be a concern for me, but I would have the talk with him about safe sex before doing anything.
Never had any personal experience with this situation, but I would suggest getting tested together so that both of you will have peace of mind. That would eliminate the need for a condom altogether...if you're on BCP's that is. But someone's word alone just isn't good enough.
IF that's not something he's willing to do, then yes, he would need to wear a condom for ALL activity. Now, IF he insisted on using a dental dam for cunnilingus, would you be offended by that? It does go both ways.
But in this day and age, it's just irresponsible and too risky NOT to protect oneself. And unless the guy in question is a virgin, then he will understand your concern and caution.