Can't finish??
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| Sun, 02-27-2005 - 10:00am |
I've been seeing this guy for a few weeks now, and we've tried intercourse a few times, but each time he can't seem to finish? He has no problem getting turned on, and he can go for a very long time, but he just cna't cum.
I know I shouldn't worry about it, and it's probably not my fault, but I want to see him happy, and I know it's bothering him. I can't help but feel it's partially my fault, I get pretty wet and am afraid maybe there's not enought friction for him? Considering I've been with two other guys and those two experiences were the same, it makes me think it's somthing I'm doing. I'm quiet as a mouse usually too, and I sometimes wonder if that discourages a guy and makes him think he's not doing a good job. I know I should talk to him about it but I'm really content right now with just cuddling and doing other things.
Any thoughts?
btw, i'm 22 he's 20.

I posted this to the other thread that you edited:
You've only been seeing him for a few weeks, so of course it's hard to talk to him, you don't even know him! I have a feeling your other two "relationships" were very short term, too.....and didn't last long enough to have a comfort level.
Guys have "anxieties" just like women do. Many guys are nervous in a new relationship, and being nervous causes problems. When two people know each other well, it's easier to relax, and let nature take it's course.
You say you want him to be happy? Has he told you he's NOT happy? Have you offered to help him finish when he gives up on intercourse?
Laying there like a lump isn't very encouraging for a guy.....you don't have to scream and yell, but you should show SOME kind of reaction and pleasure!
Maybe you're just rushing into sexual relationships too soon. Try waiting till you know each other better. That way, you'll both be less nervous, and things will go better.
Like the others have said, it's more than likely because he's a little anxious and isn't sure if he is doing all the right things for you. It can be funny how something like a little nervousness can prevent a guy from hitting his orgasm.
As already said, making a little noise or a few moans and groans of appreciation wouldn't hurt either. You could try pushing back at him or just grabbing his butt or shoulders or arms or something. It can be rather disconcerting for a guy if a girl just lies motionless and doesn't make any noise or movements.
You'll probably find that after a few more times you'll both be more comfortable with one another and it won't be a problem any more.