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Mon, 03-07-2005 - 9:57pm

Sorry about being off topic but, have any of you have or have had your husband/BF/SO in the exam room at the doctors for a gyn exam? Is that wierd?

Also, any men out there please feel free to respond I would like your input on your feelings also.

Thanks,
Diane

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Tue, 03-08-2005 - 12:15am

Oh Gawd! Yes I have, and I do feel better with him there. Although, the first time I could have *killed* him. He was uncomfortable, and when he's uncomfortable he cracks jokes. So when the DR was doing an internal exam DH turned to him and said, "If you lose your watch I get to keep it". I could have *killed* him LOL. I can laugh now, but it was soooooooo not funny then. I talked to him, and forbade him to joke like that again unless he liked a foot to the nuts :)

Leticia

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Tue, 03-08-2005 - 12:26am

He's never been in the exam room at the doctors.....but he was with me when I was giving birth - which is way more intense than just getting a gyn exam.

Actually, his sisters and niece were there too - they were in charge of catering. We sat around eating cake between contractions. Until things got really rough - then they were in charge of heating hot packs for my back.

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Tue, 03-08-2005 - 12:36am

My DH can't even be in the examining room with me even during a routine physical! It's not allowed at our family dr's office.

And he never has been in the room for a gyno exam. I wouldn't want him there personally and he wouldn't want to be there either!

I know that it's allowed during pregnancy but he always stayed outside in the waiting room unless he was called in for some reason. He was present for each of my son's births though. He stayed up by my head because he tends to get squeamish.




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Tue, 03-08-2005 - 8:07am
Mine was in with me when I was pregnant for the heart beats and for the ultrasounds. That's all he wanted to be there for, which is fine with me. My GYN (before he left to teach) was funny as hell, used to crack jokes all the time. When I had my daughter he tied my tubes. When I went for my 1 week check-up, he had a nursing student in the room. Well, he got down to check things out, once he was sitting on the stool, he looked up at me and said, "how'd you like to get pregnant?". I laughed and replied "How'd you like to get sued, you were supposed to make sure that doesn't happen again." WEll, we were laughing, but if you could have seen the look on that nursing students face! Poor thing was just stunned! LOL I'll bet he's one of the best instructors at the teaching hospital he went to. I know all his patients miss him dearly!
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Tue, 03-08-2005 - 9:03am
No, I've never had anyone come in with me

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Tue, 03-08-2005 - 3:12pm

I went to my wife's gyn exams while she was pregnant and also after when we were dealing with fibroids.

I liked being there, but I'm someone who likes learning and new experiences. I wanted to know as much as possible about everything. I'm not sure how she feels about it now, but I didn't go to the last one.

John

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Tue, 03-08-2005 - 7:17pm
He went with me a couple of times to prenatal checks that ended up having an internal exam. No regular GYN exams, but I don't think it's weird. Not very common maybe, but not weird. Heck, he's seen everything they're looking at a h*ll of a lot more than they have!
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Wed, 03-09-2005 - 10:45am
No, I wouldn't have my dh in for my yearly exam. I like to keep the medical stuff separate in the marriage. Because there is a difference in him being down there in bed, vs. him watching what they do during those appointments. I do think it would be weird to have him in the room for that. As far as being in the room for the birth of a baby, that is completely different. But, even then i only believe in DH being in the room. I have friends who have had their Dad's in the delievery room. That is gross in my opinion. But, to each their own! ^shrug^ :)
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Wed, 03-09-2005 - 11:31pm

I was with my wife for 6 or 8 pregnancy exams, during delivery, and the 6 week checkup (which also functioned as her yearly).

I was a bit uncomfortable at first, but it got easier. I do think it was very good for both of us. I was able to help her feel more comfortable about asking questions and asked them when she didn't think of them. Also, if there were any concerns, it helped me to hear them first hand and I could get all my questions answered. It helped me feel more involved and more connected to her health as well.

Also, I learned a lot. I didn't know that a urine test is what the doctors use to determine if you are pregnant. I kept asking for an official blood test! How stupid of me, but I didn't know.

And yes, it was nothing I haven't seen before.

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Registered: 03-26-2004
Thu, 03-10-2005 - 12:55am
My DH never went to any of my gyn visits, I had a female doctor who I felt completely comfortable with but we recently moved and I had a cyst down there that needed to be drained and the only doctor I could get into see was a male and since I am not comfortable with male gyn doctors my DH went in with me. I think he has gained a new appreciation for what woman have to go through just by being in the exam room that one time.

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