Obsession with women in thirties

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Registered: 06-14-2004
Obsession with women in thirties
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Thu, 03-10-2005 - 7:04am

Hi there,

I'm in a happy relationship but have this obsession for older women in there 30's! I fantasise about making love with older women all the time or swinging with a couple in there 30's. Is this unusual or perfectly normal for a guy my age 24??

Have any of you tried swinging and how was it???

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 03-10-2005 - 10:57am

No, I've never tried swinging myself but fantasies are normal, we all have have them to a degree, but they can become obsessive as well. Moderation is the key to keeping a harmless thought from becoming an intrusive and damaging one.

BTW, if you have such an obsession for "older" women, then why aren't you with an older woman? Your post seems to indicate that you aren't.




Edited 3/10/2005 10:58 am ET ET by katmandoo2001
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Registered: 07-22-2004
Thu, 03-10-2005 - 3:11pm

No such thing as in this dept. in my opinion, but 20's guys being interested in 30's or even 40's type ladies isn't that uncommon either. I myself have been for a LONG time, but am totally as complete as I could possibly be with my 30's Mrs. I have now.

General comments have usually resulted in the maturity while still sexy factor, but each guy is still different I guess.

As far as swinging goes, not really...too infatuated with the Mrs., call me boring, LOL! ;D

 

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Registered: 01-16-2005
Fri, 03-11-2005 - 12:16am

We have swung before but unfortunately someone in your situation, in a committed relationship, we would not. Swinging is about having fun and enjoying yourselves. It is not meant to break up relationships or create drama for the couple that invites you.

The question you must ask yourself what is more important your current relationship or swinging. As they tend to be incompatible for single males. If you swing while you are in relationship and you are doing it behind your partner's back then you are cheating, not swinging.