Vaginal Looseness

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Vaginal Looseness
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Mon, 03-14-2005 - 10:21pm
I know this has been discussed here often. That women return to normal size and DO NOT stretch out from a lot of sexual activity, they simply become more comfortable and less tense. Anyway, I'm trying to prove this to a friend of mine and I cannot find any legitimate looking info on the subject! Anyone know of any?

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Mon, 03-14-2005 - 11:02pm

I did a search on "vagina"......and came up with thousands of entries. I checked a few of them, and found this: http://www.afraidtoask.com/woman/frCROTCH.html

There might be something there with more specific information, but I wasn't going to take the time to read everything. If you read it, it briefly describes the musculature of the vagina.

If your friend is a male, he needs some education.....let HIM read it.

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Mon, 03-14-2005 - 11:11pm

Normal sexual activity will not stretch out vaginal muscles however, ANY muscle has it's limits so if a muscle and tissues are stretched BEYOND those inherited limits, then they won't regain their former tone. I know from experience. When I had my second child, the dr. used forceps and damaged my vagina. And I had to have surgery to correct the damage.

But we all know that muscles can lose tone but can also regain it. The vagina is created for sexual intercourse as well as childbirth and it would take unusual stress and conditions to damage it. There aren't many erections as broad as a baby's head or shoulders though and how firm it is will also affect the feeling each will have with each session. So, it's not necessarily the vagina which has or hasn't loosened but also the quality of his erection. The vagina can feel looser due to more arousal as well, since it opens like a tube upon full arousal.

Not sure if www.the-clitoris.com has any info. regarding this but might be a good place to start.

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Mon, 03-14-2005 - 11:24pm
Yeah both of those have stuff he already knows but neither actually states that it won't stretch out under normal sexual activity. But thanks anyway. I'm surprised I can't find an article on this.
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Mon, 03-14-2005 - 11:33pm
So, obviously he knows MORE about your vagina than you do? And until he sees what you're saying in writing, he won't take your word on it? Well, I'm sure you'll find an article to back you up eventually but until you do, just tell him that unless he has a vagina in those boxers, he can't tell anyone how it's supposed to function!


Edited 3/15/2005 12:35 am ET ET by katmandoo2001
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Tue, 03-15-2005 - 1:11am

Yes, it stretches (or relaxes) during normal sexual activity. THEN it goes RIGHT back to being tightly closed again.

If he thinks that it stretches permanently, then what does he think it's like after having a baby? It goes back to it's original size within a few weeks!

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Tue, 03-15-2005 - 9:28am

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If he thinks that it stretches permanently, then what does he think it's like after having a baby? It goes back to it's original size within a few weeks!
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These are exactly the explanations I've given him, I've discussed the physiology, etc. etc. But the idea that a more sexually active woman is more 'loose' than one who is less sexually active is so engrained in him (and most of my generation :-/ ) that he refuses to accept it until he sees an article to that effect. He's convinced I'm just making it up. I'm sure I'll find one eventually - surely SOMEONE has written something to debunk the idea that sexual activity permantently stretches a woman. I'll keep looking - thanks guys.

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Tue, 03-15-2005 - 10:03am

Don't you just love it when men know more about women's bodies than women do?

He's probably basing his "idea" on the fact that sex with a virgin is usually "tight", sometimes painfully so. That virgin's vaginal muscles are no different than a woman who's had 5 kids. BUT, a virgin is nervous, scared, more than likely with a young guy who doesn't have a clue about foreplay, lubrication, etc. Now, this same couple, 6 months or a year later, have gotten comfortable, she's more relaxed, and her vaginal muscles are more relaxed too. She's also more lubricated, so it FEELS looser because of less friction and less resistance.

Maybe you should take him with you to your next gyno visit, and have the doc explain it to him......OR, ask the doctor where you can find information in print. What your husband needs to understand also, is that just because it's in writing, doesn't make it a fact! While I was doing a search for the web site I found for you, there was one entry entitled "how much do you know about your body.....a quiz". I checked it out, and the first question was: What is the most sensitive part of your vagina? It was multiple choice.....a) the clitoris, b)the opening, c) the inside. Their answer was A! DUH! Since when is the clitoris part of the vagina???? So, there you go.....it's in writing, but it is WRONG.

PS: If this whole conversation with your husband started because the clod was referring to YOU, explain to him that he's such a great lover that your vagina just "falls open" in anticipation of the wonderful pleasure to come, lol

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Tue, 03-15-2005 - 12:00pm
Yes, unless he owns one himself, then he has no real clue how it functions and more importantly, how it may differ from every other vagina out there.
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Tue, 03-15-2005 - 12:29pm

Yup - I tried to explain that his mentality is backwards. Virgins are tight because they have so little experience. Not the other way. Heck, I learned most of this stuff from this board. Haha. A lot of it from you GTB.

And its actually not my husband - just a bf. And we aren't having intercourse yet. It was just a topic that came up in conversation. And it makes me mad that he refuses to believe me.




Edited 3/15/2005 1:30 pm ET ET by alwaysaangel2006
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Tue, 03-15-2005 - 12:31pm
Even he confessed that. But he just wants to see it in writing - pain in the ass! haha

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