I want it.....NOW!

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Registered: 03-17-2005
I want it.....NOW!
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Thu, 03-17-2005 - 12:31am
OK,do all women go through this? I'm 28, married, mom of two young kids. I'd say I've always had an ok sex drive but I've never had a problem going a week without it. Recently, I want it everyday, every hour, every minute! I think I'm freaking my husband out! I actually want it more than he does. This may sound like an ideal situation but it's really not. I'm frustrated and it sucks. I just want to know if anyone can relate and if it goes away or only gets worse. Thanks. :)
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Thu, 03-17-2005 - 1:09am
Yes, I think it's normal for women's AND men's sex drive to surge and wane from time to time. I've always had the higher sex drive in my marriage though and so I just take care of myself when I need to. But is there any reason why your DH can't try and accomodate this temporary surge?
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Thu, 03-17-2005 - 8:33am
It is interesting that I went through a period of just impossible desire for sex soon after I became single again. It was then that I discovered how helpful it is to pleasure myself. Since then solo sex has been a significant part of my sexual diet. When I go through cycles of really needing sexual relief, I am able to relax myself very well, I would encourage it. Elaine
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Thu, 03-17-2005 - 9:02am

Hi NN,

Most people go through surges like this during their lives. Unfortunately, rarely do couples "cycle" like this simultaneously and that's where the problems come in. I think what Elaine and Kat said about taking care of the "excess" sexual energy yourself is a good solution. Hopefully your husband will hit while the "iron's hot", because like all things, this too shall pass (and probably come again one day).

Peace.
Scott.

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Thu, 03-17-2005 - 9:18am
I heard that women at that age get like that, that is the pick age of sex
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Thu, 03-17-2005 - 9:44am
As the others said, everyone (women and men) go through highs and lows with their sex drives and many women have higher sex drives then their men do.

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Thu, 03-17-2005 - 10:29am
Has nothing to do with age and everything to do with personal happiness and health. We continue to have these surges throughout our lives.
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Thu, 03-17-2005 - 11:35am

I never believed in that *sexual peak* stuff.


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Thu, 03-17-2005 - 2:29pm

Mrs. Para & I go back and forth SO many times ourselves, so if you're looking for others who can relate...obviously you got it! :)

Hopefully your husband understands that you're just going through a very natural phase, even if it is all day every day for now.

 

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