OOPS!

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Registered: 07-10-2003
OOPS!
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Sat, 03-19-2005 - 1:37am

Hi! I've been absent from here for a very long time - but am now in need of some help!

My ex, B, and I broke up 4 VERY LONG months ago. Miraculously, we've remained very friendly. Neither of us have had a relationship of any kind since. So last night we ran into each other while out celebrating St. Patrick's Day - and ended up having sex.

My problem? Just when we were getting to the OMG! part - B stopped and asked me "Who the hell is Evan?" He says I called out "Oh Evan", when I swear I said "OMG". I told him the only Evan I know is my baby cousin, why would I call out his name during sex? Since the mood had been killed, I left feeling a little frustrated with the situation.

The only thing my friends can think of is since little Evan's been very sick and hospitalized lately he was in my subconscious thoughts and when I 'relaxed', his name came out. They also say deny it...make B think he was really drunk and hearing things.

I don't know what to do, or say to him the next time I see or talk to him.

And how can I make sure this NEVER HAPPENS AGAIN????

Liz

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Registered: 10-13-2004
In reply to: smithten_76
Sat, 03-19-2005 - 2:17am

Hon, your ex is way over-reacting. Who does he think he is to question you about a name he thinks you've said when he's not even your boyfriend? He's totally out of line.

If you think that you didn't say "Evan" then tell him that he's an idiot and he's hearing things. And if he raises the subject again, tell him to get a life. Or better yet, a proper girlfriend.




Edited 3/19/2005 3:20 am ET ET by iv_aisha2004
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Registered: 05-27-2004
In reply to: smithten_76
Sat, 03-19-2005 - 8:50am

You can prevent this from happening by making sure you never have sex with him again! Who does he think he is? What business is it of his if you call out 10 guys names? He's no longer your b/f, and by continuing to have sex with him, you're just prolonging the misery.

What does he expect you to do? Join a convent because he's no longer in your life? He sounds like a real loser, and you're better off without him.

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Registered: 07-10-2003
In reply to: smithten_76
Sat, 03-19-2005 - 12:32pm

Thanks for the responses! I think I've solved it...

He was hearing things. His name happens to be Ben, music was playing, and he probably heard me say Evan - when I was really saying his name.

I'm not trying to make excuses. It just came to me last night how much alike those names sound.

Liz

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Registered: 10-13-2004
In reply to: smithten_76
Sat, 03-19-2005 - 4:22pm

sorry Hon, Ben and Evan sound nothing alike.

The thing is, as your ex, he's got no right to question who you sleep with after you've broken up. And You do not have to answer to him. Don't give explanations another thought.

I can't help but wonder if the reason you broke up was because he was too dominating or demanding.

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In reply to: smithten_76
Sun, 03-20-2005 - 12:04pm

I got an apology last night.

He says that he completely overreacted and shouldn't have.

And I didn't have to say a word.

Liz