Pantyhose

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Registered: 09-05-2005
Pantyhose
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Mon, 09-05-2005 - 1:45pm
My boyfriend is great but..he only seems really turned on when I wear pantyhose. I have tons he bought me. But he wants them on me day and night, at work, at play and in bed mostly! I wear them under jeans, and he loves the "80's Flashdance" leotard look. He even rips them so we can make love while I wear them. It turns me on to feel sos exy but is he just an incurable fetishist?

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Registered: 08-06-2004
In reply to: tammimoore99
Mon, 09-05-2005 - 2:06pm

sounds like a fetish to me, and as long as you are ok with it and it doesnt become a problem I see no problem with it. you know they make crotchless panty hose - you should buy a few pair and see how he likes it.

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Registered: 05-01-2003
In reply to: tammimoore99
Mon, 09-05-2005 - 2:30pm

Two comments, one lighthearted, one more serious:

The lighthearted one -- if you spend as much on hose as I do, having a constant supply makes a real difference to the budget

The serious one -- it is the quirks in male sexuality that makes that half of the human race so difficult to understand.

Elaine

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Registered: 07-26-2005
In reply to: tammimoore99
Mon, 09-05-2005 - 3:21pm

He likes it, he supplies them, you don't mind, so where's the harm?

However, you say he's ONLY turned on when you wear them? Are you saying that if you don't have pantyhose on, you do nothing for him? What happens if one day you decide NOT to wear them? That would bother me! I would be wondering......is he with me because he loves me, or is he with me because I'm the only one he's found that will cooperate with his fetish?

I'd have to put that to the test! What's wrong with sexy undies once in a while, or NO undies. If those things didn't do something for him.....as I say, I'd wonder about him.

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Registered: 10-18-2001
In reply to: tammimoore99
Mon, 09-05-2005 - 6:13pm

>> it is the quirks in male sexuality that makes that half of the human race so difficult to understand.<<

And there I was thinking that it was the quirks of female sexuality that made them impossible to understand..... ;-)

To the OP, technically, if he can ONLY get turned on and aroused when you wear pantyhose it's a fetish. If he can get turned on if you are not wearing them then it's not a fetish. But the term is used fast and loose so I wouldn't get too worried about what to call his preference. At the end of the day it doesn't matter what it's called, it's just what he likes and needs to get turned on. If you're OK with it and are enjoying your sex life then what's the harm?

If you're not OK with it or have a problem with it, then you need to talk to him about it and see if the two of you can come to a compromise. After-all, there are two people involved in this relationship, not just him and what he likes.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: tammimoore99
Mon, 09-05-2005 - 6:46pm
Wow, I am a man a prefer naked skin to panty hose any day. It should be a good test for you to show up some day with no panty hose. Maybe he would not be able to get an erection if you did. Then what happens if the panty hose factory goes on strike? LOL It must be a fetish.
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Registered: 06-14-2002
In reply to: tammimoore99
Mon, 09-05-2005 - 7:00pm

I am a man too ... but what I prefer for my DW to wear to bed varies depending on moods. Sometimes it doesn't matter, if I can get her aroused, we are going to make love. Other times I want to make things a little special (or she does) or to tell her that I am in the mood, she will dress up. It may be lingerie, or sexy street clothes, or a skimpy bikini, or a robe. I like to "unwrap the package" or just unwrap enough to play. So to say I prefer bare skin, yea 80% of the time, that is great ... Other times I prefer something else ...

CH

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Registered: 10-18-2001
In reply to: tammimoore99
Mon, 09-05-2005 - 7:30pm

>>but what I prefer for my DW to wear to bed varies depending on moods.<<

Yeah, I'm the same. I like bare skin but there is something to be said for a garter belt and stockings. Having a pair of silky, stocking encased legs wrapping around your hips, the sensation of running your finger tips up her thigh and the transition from silky smooth stocking, to slightly rough lace tops, then to the smooth warm skin of her inner thigh, tracing a fingertip higher and higher along the edge of the velvet strap.... sheeesh! I think I better find a cold shower....

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Registered: 06-14-2002
In reply to: tammimoore99
Mon, 09-05-2005 - 9:29pm

Me too ... I am 1,000 miles from my DW right now ...

CH

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: tammimoore99
Tue, 09-06-2005 - 9:33am

I hate panythose, but I guess he's lucky that you are willing to do comply with his request. Do you ever go to bed naked? How does he react?

My DH prefers naked to anything. He enjoys lingerie but I never seem to have it on for long.

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Registered: 07-18-2003
In reply to: tammimoore99
Tue, 09-06-2005 - 1:20pm
ALL guys have fetish(es). At least you know one of his. If you can live with it, great.

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