confusion

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confusion
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Tue, 09-06-2005 - 11:37am

This past weekend, my gf and I went to a party in which we both got quite drunk. She said dancing puts her in the mood, so I was glad to take her out dancing when I saw her (we’re in long distance). After the party I took her home, where she changed into a sexy outfit. We were still quite drunk.

Anyway, after stripping her, I blindfolded her, handcuffed her hands to the bed, and her legs as well. I had this warming edible lotion that I rubbed over her body and by the time I got down, she was really wet. After teasing her, I started licking her and such, and, not long after, she started moaning I love you (she likes to be kissed when she orgasms, and so in order to not break the flow, we agreed she’s say she loves me when she hits it as my cue to kiss her).

After a short break, I go down again, and this time when I put fingers in, she begs me to go more slowly, and I already thought I was going quite slow. I think she came again; she utters to stop and moans. She commands me to untie her immediately as if about to cry. She kisses me a few times, goes oh my god, and starts shivering and shaking. I smiled at first, but then got scared. She wouldn’t let me touch her down there at all. She wouldn’t even kiss me. She just kept shaking and twitching. I thought it was alchohol poisoning, although we weren’t at that point when we left the party, and it was I who chugged beer in a came of beer pong, not her.

I suggested maybe she should wash the lotion stuff I rubbed on her and that would help…I mentioned before that I’d really like to shower with her btw, but I certainly wasn’t thinking along those lines this time…just wanted to wash the stuff off her. She said okay, but I can’t come with her; but she could barely walk.

So I took her to the shower, washed the stuff off her while she leaned against me and held the wall for support; she could barely stand. I brought her back to the room, started kissing her belly and massaging her to try to calm her down. She passes out and awakes ten minutes later yelling omg! I passed out!

When we left the party, she was able to walk on her own. Of course, both of us were quite drunk, but she could walk all the way to her dorm well enough.

At the time, I was scared crapless, and almost considered calling an ambulance cuz I didn’t know if that was normal or not. Did what I do make her dangerously drunk? Was it a good thing what I did? Why didn’t she let me touch her after that? Was she in danger at all?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: questionss1
Tue, 09-06-2005 - 12:45pm

No, she wasn't in danger physically from normal sexual activity but it sounds like she definitely had too much to drink! Were you sexually active before this evening? Did you do anything differently than you ever have sober?

Since one's reaction to alcohol has more to do with body weight, then generally, depending on her weight, a woman doesn't have to consume as much as a man to get intoxicated. Where she is in her menstrual cycle can also determine how much alcohol her body will absorb.

So, it sounds like the alcohol had more to do with her reaction than the warming lube or anything you did. I would certainly talk with her about it to make sure that she's okay and that you didn't go too far. My guess is that she started feeling sick while she was restrained and thought she might vomit.

Next time though, cool it on the alcohol intake since it can cause both of you to react differently and more unpredictably. Besides, you want to REMEMBER your time together!




Edited 9/6/2005 1:00 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
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Registered: 07-26-2005
In reply to: questionss1
Tue, 09-06-2005 - 4:15pm

Sounds like she drank too much, too fast. When you left the party, it hadn't all absorbed into her blood stream yet, so at that point, she was only half drunk, and on auto-pilot. Then all the sexual activity sped up the absorbtion into the blood stream....and she passed out.

Both of you need to look at your drinking habits. If you can't drink without getting to the point of passing out.....then you shouldn't drink at all.

Alcohol, in moderation can be good. It relaxes you, and takes away some inhibitions....but overdoing it can lead to what happened to you, she didn't even know what you were doing, and as you seem to know, it can also lead to alcohol poisoning, which can be fatal.