first time thoughts

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Registered: 09-01-2005
first time thoughts
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Tue, 09-06-2005 - 10:15pm
How did you feel before and after you lost your virginity? Did you have any regrets? Is there anything you wish you had done or known before you had sex? If you could go back in time, is there anything you would have done differently? What did you do to prepare yourself for sex?
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Registered: 01-07-2005
Tue, 09-06-2005 - 11:53pm

<<>> Before - just wanted to get it over. After - okay and glad it happened exactly (if not better) than I had planned.

<<>> Wish I wasn't drunk

<<>> Nope

<<>> Nope, except maybe not drink so much.

<<>> Pray that it would begin!

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Registered: 08-12-2002
Wed, 09-07-2005 - 12:05am

>>>How did you feel before and after you lost your virginity?

Well, first of all I didn't make a big deal about it. It's just virginity. By the time I got to have sex, I was so desperate for it I could have burst lol. Afterwards I just wasn't satisfied.

>>>Did you have any regrets? Is there anything you wish you had done or known before you >>>had sex?

Yeah, I wish I'd known he was only gonna last for 30 seconds. I didn't get a chance to enjoy it before it was over.

>>>If you could go back in time, is there anything you would have done differently? What >>>did you do to prepare yourself for sex?

Hmmm, can't think of anything I could've done differently. I had taught him all the foreplay he needed to know, well before we reached that stage, so it wasn't like I wasn't "ready" for it.

Janet

 


 


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Registered: 08-21-2005
Wed, 09-07-2005 - 2:42am

Hmm, it was my 23 birthday and my best friends Mom and 2 sisters took me out for a drink. By 23, I was a relationship nightmare. Very Baptist, I was committed to the idea of my wife being the only one... Being a passionate, curious human male I was incredibly repressed. I was having this problem with "falling in love" on first dates, my delusional response to wanting sex so badly and having to be married. So of course, I only had FIRST dates, and eventually, not even those.

Well, word got around the bar of both my birthday and my virginity, and that I would only drink a shot of tequlia if I had a kiss as a chaser. I lost count, and although this is a small town and I know everyone, I have no idea who the women were, but at least 10 different women, and by the way the towns mayor, a man, bought me a shot and gave me a kiss. (The mayor only kissed me on the cheek, thank God, the barmaid did the real chaser.)
And when I was properly prepared, alcholol removal of inhibition, and the kisses that were nearly molesting bringing my blood to a hormonal boil.. A best friend of my best friends sisters took me home with her..

Now, there was nothing about this that met with my approval or dreams of how I would lose my virginity.

And it was perfect, I wouldnt change a thing. Except maybe I would have made the mayor give me a real kiss, I broke all my other taboos, why not kiss a man as well LOL.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 09-08-2005 - 6:03pm

Right after I gave up my virginity, I was a little shell-shocked I think. I had never planned on becoming sexually active at such a young age, 16, but it was my choice.

I came to regret that choice later on because I realized that I had no idea what real love was. Or what a risk I was taking with my future every time we had sex.

I think it's best to wait until you have more perspective and maturity to make important decisions. At least we were prepared with condoms and spermicidal foam and I'm grateful for THAT.

If I could go back in time, I would have waited for the right man.

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Registered: 08-06-2004
Thu, 09-08-2005 - 6:56pm

I was 13 years old - barely. Wanted to grow up real fast. Good News is The boy - yes at 13 we were still boys and girls - I lost my virginity too was also losing his virginity - he was a year older than me - we had been playing house with eachother for quite sometime before it happened and we continued for several years after. We taught eachother everything about sex. I moved away for about a year - when I moved back we started right where we left off. Last time I saw him I was about 17. I still think about him sometimes not in a way that betrays my commitment to my husband, more of in a way of I wonder how he is doing? Is he married? Does he remember all those years we ran all over the countryside together getting our "feet wet"? We were like peas and carrots. He still lives somewhere in the area - I saw him 2 years ago when his dad died, His Dad was like a Father to me when I was young and of course I attended the funeral - we exchanged hellos and condolences I introduced him to my family which was with me. A brief hug that boiled my husbands blood - havent seen him since.

I have no regrets... those were things that if I hadnt done, I would not be the person I am today.