scared.

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Wed, 09-07-2005 - 6:58am
Two days ago me and this guy I've been seeing decided to have sex. He didn't have any condoms, so in the heat of the moment that didn't really bother me. He told me that he doesn't have any STD's because he has been tested and had only been with one girl before. He pulled out well before he ejaculated, because he pulled out then finished himself off by hand. I'm pretty sure there is a very small chance I could be pregnant, but I need some input. Should I seriously looking into emergency contraception before the 100 hours pass?
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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: calmstorm10
Wed, 09-07-2005 - 8:03am

The morning after pill must be taken within 72 hours, but the sooner it's taken, the more effective and higher chance of it working is.


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Registered: 09-04-2005
In reply to: calmstorm10
Wed, 09-07-2005 - 11:42am
Yes you should definately go run out and get the emergency contraceptive pill! (I've never taken it, but I think it's only good for like 72 hrs...)
I got pregnant the same way with my first child! You CAN get pregnant from that little bit of preejaculate before he pulled out!
If you want to have sex w/o condoms, (and you are positive you are both clean) get on the pill! Never go by what someone says (that they are STD free). They could have something and not even know it!
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Registered: 05-01-2003
In reply to: calmstorm10
Wed, 09-07-2005 - 3:29pm
There are some basic rules. One is never trust what a man tells you about his sex life. Most either boast of more sex than they are actually getting, but some will minimize their activity in order to get you into bed with them. The second is always to wear protection until you are absolutely certain he has no STDs. Elaine
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Registered: 06-30-2005
In reply to: calmstorm10
Wed, 09-07-2005 - 5:09pm
WAIT!!! I have a question. My doctor told me that you could not get pregnant from pre-cum, I told her about a friend who did and she said that was because when he came he didn't pull out soon enough. She said the only way that you could get pregnant from pre-cum is if you had sex before that and he came, then he didnt use the bathroom and went at it again. She said you could get pregnant from that because urine and sprem travel down the same tube. By him using the bathroom that would kill all of the existing sperm in the pathway. She said pre-cum is just liquid, it contains no sperm at all. Because he didn't go to the bathroom pre-cum and sperm both came out. Is this true what she is telling me, or should I consider a different doctor that knows what they are talking about?
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Registered: 10-18-2001
In reply to: calmstorm10
Wed, 09-07-2005 - 6:04pm

>>Is this true what she is telling me, or should I consider a different doctor that knows what they are talking about?<<

Yes, it's true - to a degree. She is right but it is also extremely disappointing that she has made it sound like it's that simple, and has effectively said that the withdrawal method is "safe" and "effective". It's not. Real life is never that simple or straightforward.

What she didn't tell you is that it's not completely uncommon for young men to masturbate before a date when they think that they might have sex so that they "last" longer during sex and so that they don't get an embarrassing erection in their pants. So there might be semen left in the urethra from that. Or from a normal masturbation session ealier in the day. Depending on the length of foreplay the young chap might have come close to orgasming as well and I don't know that I'd want to take the risk of finding out whether or not there have been sperm released.

At the end of the day, it's been proven that pre-cum can contain sperm - how they got there doesn't really matter. And where there are sperm there is a chance of pregnancy. Yeah, it's a small chance. But if the odds don't go your way, or he's one of those guys that starts to cum just before he pulls out, then you have an awfully big problem on your hands.

Unprotected sex using the "withdrawal" method is just too risky especially when you realise that getting on the pill or using condoms is a very, very simple and effective answer. Buying a condom or raising a baby? Hmmmm. Tough choice.

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Registered: 06-30-2005
In reply to: calmstorm10
Wed, 09-07-2005 - 7:32pm
thanks for responding so quickly. my boyfriend and I do use a condom, but we used the pullout method for a while. thats how my doctor and I got on the subject. she told me that was an good method and thats when I brought up about my friend, and that's how this whole thing started. I think I just might go to a different doctor cause this one doesnt seem to be telling me the full truth
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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: calmstorm10
Wed, 09-07-2005 - 7:54pm

That is why I said pre-cum *can* contain sperm.


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Registered: 10-18-2001
In reply to: calmstorm10
Wed, 09-07-2005 - 9:28pm

>>she told me that was an good method<<

I can't believe that a good Doctor would say that the withdrawal method is a good method.

OK, so it's better than letting him cum inside you. But only just, and if he's a fraction of a second too slow in pulling out, or doesn't care about birthcontrol as much as you though he did..... welll.......