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| Wed, 09-07-2005 - 6:58am |
Two days ago me and this guy I've been seeing decided to have sex. He didn't have any condoms, so in the heat of the moment that didn't really bother me. He told me that he doesn't have any STD's because he has been tested and had only been with one girl before. He pulled out well before he ejaculated, because he pulled out then finished himself off by hand. I'm pretty sure there is a very small chance I could be pregnant, but I need some input. Should I seriously looking into emergency contraception before the 100 hours pass?

The morning after pill must be taken within 72 hours, but the sooner it's taken, the more effective and higher chance of it working is.
I got pregnant the same way with my first child! You CAN get pregnant from that little bit of preejaculate before he pulled out!
If you want to have sex w/o condoms, (and you are positive you are both clean) get on the pill! Never go by what someone says (that they are STD free). They could have something and not even know it!
>>Is this true what she is telling me, or should I consider a different doctor that knows what they are talking about?<<
Yes, it's true - to a degree. She is right but it is also extremely disappointing that she has made it sound like it's that simple, and has effectively said that the withdrawal method is "safe" and "effective". It's not. Real life is never that simple or straightforward.
What she didn't tell you is that it's not completely uncommon for young men to masturbate before a date when they think that they might have sex so that they "last" longer during sex and so that they don't get an embarrassing erection in their pants. So there might be semen left in the urethra from that. Or from a normal masturbation session ealier in the day. Depending on the length of foreplay the young chap might have come close to orgasming as well and I don't know that I'd want to take the risk of finding out whether or not there have been sperm released.
At the end of the day, it's been proven that pre-cum can contain sperm - how they got there doesn't really matter. And where there are sperm there is a chance of pregnancy. Yeah, it's a small chance. But if the odds don't go your way, or he's one of those guys that starts to cum just before he pulls out, then you have an awfully big problem on your hands.
Unprotected sex using the "withdrawal" method is just too risky especially when you realise that getting on the pill or using condoms is a very, very simple and effective answer. Buying a condom or raising a baby? Hmmmm. Tough choice.
That is why I said pre-cum *can* contain sperm.
>>she told me that was an good method<<
I can't believe that a good Doctor would say that the withdrawal method is a good method.
OK, so it's better than letting him cum inside you. But only just, and if he's a fraction of a second too slow in pulling out, or doesn't care about birthcontrol as much as you though he did..... welll.......