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| Sun, 09-11-2005 - 5:20pm |
I dont know if Ive ever had an orgasm. When I have sex most of the time I am satisfied. I dont know what a normal orgasm is like. I have watched porns and have listened to different shows and read different things. They all say that there is usually a wet spot after a woman has an orgasm as well as she feels the urge to bear down like shes giving birth or she screams out. I tell my partner when he is doing something I like, a couple of times Ive scatched him, I get really hot. My body gets really tight and then eventually I feel very relaxed. I am assuming that means Ive had an orgasm but its nothing like I think its supposed to be.
Any advise??

when I orgasm I know it. I think all women are different in this regard tho, so who knows what an orgasm for you is like?!
No there is not necasarily a 'wet spot' after a woman orgasms. I orgasm almost every time I have sex and I never ejaculate in a way that would create a wet spot.
No not all women scream when they orgasm, I do make noise during sex and occasionally when I'm into it and in the mood I get a bit loud, but not everytime. Also Not every women bears down.
Even when I dont orgasm I tend to feel satisfied after sex, if the sex has been satisfying that is. You dont have to orgasm to feel satisfied and good.
You might try oral sex. Have your partner use his fingers on you while giving oral sex... that may be just the thing to push you over the edge and give you an orgasm. If I have a orgasm from intercourse its normally if I've already had one from oral sex.
One way or another, as long as you are enjoying yourself there is nothing to worry about. Keep telling your partner what feels good and explore a bit more to find all the right spots that feel good, I'm sure sooner than later you will experience something that for you is orgasmic.
GL.
Watching porns is not the way to find out what's "normal" in sex. Porns aren't normal. They're ACTING! Everything they do is exaggerated. Very few women scream...and there's no wet spot unless you're extremely well lubricated. I don't know where you've seen or heard that there is supposed to be a wet spot. I've watched Sue Johnson, the Bermans, and a few other sex shows, and I've never heard anyone say that! Are you confusing orgasms with ejaculation? Females can ejaculate, and when they do, it's not a "wet spot", it's a soaked bed. But, not a lot of females do that, and it has nothing to do with orgasms.
Every woman is different, and every woman's orgasms are different. If you're enjoying what you're doing, then enjoy it and don't try to compare it with something that someone else talks about. Maybe you haven't had an orgasm, but the point of sex it to be intimate with someone you care about, and enjoying it. That's what you're doing!
If you're totally relaxed, and "into" what you're doing, you might be having very mild orgasms.....and that's "normal" for you. Maybe someday, something will happen, and you'll realize that you'd never had an orgasm till that moment. But, in the meantime, you're enjoying sex with someone you care about, which is the important thing....not orgasms.