2nd time SEX / Im Scared
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| Tue, 09-13-2005 - 12:38pm |
HEY EVERYONE.. or to people who read my first post when i 1ST lost my virginity about 4 weeks ago.
::2ND TIME SEX::
well, at it for the second time and i can say when we first started it hurt like the first time, but i told him go slow.. and he did. And, a few moments later it didnt hurt at all it was great... i didnt bleed either like the first time.
::IM SCARED::
also, i might be pregnant from sex the first time. im waiting for my period to come this month if it doesnt i will know for sure. I havent taken the pregnancy test because im scared. i dont know why, but i am and i have no one to really talk except for him, but he just makes jokes.. like he wants me to be pregnant. he would say,"your pregnant thats why your stomach hurts all the time.." b/c i tell him when my tummy hurts because lately it does when i wake-up or anytime during the day. He also told me, "You know your going to be the mother of my babies." But i remember the first time he said he wasnt ready and didnt want any children soon and i said the same thing but now he's talking like he does want me to have a baby and this 2nd time around with sex he didnt want to wear a condom...
Why do you think hes acting this way and doesnt want to wear a condom ??
Naleiya

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First of all, IF you think you're pregnant, take a test.
Why do you think hes acting this way and doesnt want to wear a condom ?? Why? Because you allow him to, that's why!
This is YOUR body, and YOU are the one who will have a baby, and have to take care of it for the next 18 or 20 years! He's Mr. Macho......he wants you to have his babies. Tell him to produce a marriage license first! Naleiya, you are mistaking sex for love. If he loved you, he wouldn't want to get you pregnant, because he knows you're too young. He doesn't love you, he likes sex with you. If you do get pregnant, he won't be a part of your life! He'll be long gone, and you'll be left alone to take care of your obligations, possibly on welfare if you don't have an education that will allow you to get a decent job and support yourself and your child!
If you think you're pregnant, then TAKE the test. What happened to Planned Parenthood? I thought you were going to go there, and get on some birth control!
Being scared to take the test will not change the results. If you're pregnant, then you are, and not taking the test will not change that. If you're NOT pregnant, then you're a lucky girl, and you should NEVER have sex with this guy again unless you ARE on birth control, and he also wears a condom! Has he been tested for STD's? If not, you could get a disease from him that would be worse than getting pregnant. You could DIE! Or you could get some diseases that will make you sterile, and you can NEVER have a baby!
You are not ready to have a baby, and you're not even ready to have sex with him, or anyone else. If you have no regard for your own safety and health, then you have some growing up to do before you become sexually active.
Please start thinking about yourself, and stop worrying about what HE wants. If he wants sex with you, then he HAS TO USE A CONDOM!!! If he doesn't like that, too bad. It's YOUR body, and you have to take care of it....it's obvious HE doesn't care what happens!
The more important question is WHY are you putting your whole future into his hands this way? Why are you allowing him to decide whether condoms will be used or not?
Don't be flattered by his saying that he wants you to have his children! He doesn't know what he wants at such a young age. Next week, he may decide he doesn't want children at all! Then what? No, he doesn't want to wear a condom because it feels better to HIM without one!
Listen to what he says with your BRAIN, not your heart and protect yourself. Get a pregnancy test, use it and then take the necessary steps to protect your health AND your future because he may or may not be in it.
Edited 9/13/2005 4:30 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
Oh please believe if i am pregnant hes going to be there and in this childs life. No matter if he likes it or not.
i am not letting him control my LIFE. i dont know, maybe the way i left the post you all think that HE is running my life and hes not. i RUN this, i am in control of everything i do NOT him, and trust me i know and HE knows this already... if only, if only you all knew. But, i already know everything there is to a baby, i work with them all day every day. I also know VERY WELL, that he LOVES me more than i love him AND TRUST ME, i know its not all about that. I also know for a fact i am not using sex with him for just LOVE... and i also know hes not going anywhere.
He is 20 years old and he has alot of money saved up and has alot going for himself, having a child right now may put both of our futures/careers on hold but at least i know he will be there. we are both going to the same college, both have jobs and money. And im totally dependable on myself, if,IF he does decide to not be there. its possible, but thats not even in my head right now. I hope i am not pregnant though. I just think i am because lately my stomach hurts and i FEEL fat. But i will take the pregnancy test tonight before i go to bed.
i dont like the fact how people talk to me like i am stupid. -- because i said, he doesnt like to wear the condoms and i didnt say b/c i FORGOT, to mention i make him put it on. i am really strict with him on sex. im new at it, he's not. But i know theres STD'S and i can get pregnant, trust me on that too, I KNOW.
Nalei'
have fun BUT BE SAFE !!!
Thank you sexynympho.. i can relate more with you b/c were the same age. But girl, i know how it is and trust me who doesnt want to be SAFE. i definetly do, and thats what i plan to do. But, im already letting him know, no sex unless he puts on a condom and by him not wanting to wear one i already let him know thats a turn-off and makes me not want to have sex with him.
LOL.. thankyou again
Nalei'
Naleiya, we aren't mind readers here. We can only respond to the info. you provide in your post and you said nothing about making him wear a condom. But IF that were always the case, then you wouldn't need to use a pregnancy test, would you?
And as Tally said, there are plenty of deadbeat parents out there so there are no guarentees in life.
And you won't believe the changes you'll experience in just the next 5 yrs. At 18, the odds are that this guy won't be the last man in your life.
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