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| Tue, 09-13-2005 - 9:38pm |
My boyfriend loves blow jobs, as I said in the post before, but has never cummed from one. He says he likes them better than handjobs and we are not having sex. I need to learn something to do that we make him cum so I won't have to finish it off with a hand job or he won't go soft in the middle. Any ideas?

Yes, you ARE having sex! Oral sex is sex! Any kind of bodily contact with his penis or your vulva is sex! Maybe you're not having intercourse, but you are having sex.
If he's got a problem finishing during oral sex, that's because HE has a problem. He's the one in charge of that, and there's nothing you can do about it. He is nervous, or uncomfortable...and that's what's holding him back. Ask him if there's some kind of movement that he likes.....faster, slower, etc. You can try your best, but if he can't he can't, and he's got to overcome whatever it is. There are many men who can't or don't finish from oral sex. He's one of them, at least for now.
You can't "make" him finish, any more than he can "make" you have an orgasm.
He's the one with the penis, so you need to ask HIM how he likes it stimulated. Men are as different in their preferences as we are. What my Dh likes a lot, your BF may not. And as Dakine said, oral sex IS sex.
But if you are having to finish him with manual stimulation or he goes soft, then he obviously responds to manual better. Many men do. Some men just can't orgasm from oral stimulation.
BTW, I hope he is offering reciprocation for your efforts.
Edited 9/14/2005 2:28 am ET ET by katmandoo2001
You cannot make him cum, an orgasm is up to the person having it whether it's him having it or you.
My bf is the same: he won't come because he thinks its not nice on me, so he holds it back. But one time he was relaxed and it happened. So you just need to make sure he's relaxed and that he isn't nervous (don't ask him if he's nervous, cause that'll just make him nervous...the male psyche....). But talking to him about it will give you good insight as to why he doesn't come.
Hope this helps