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No eye contact during sex
| Sun, 09-18-2005 - 6:56pm |
My BF does not look me in the eyes while having sex. I once said that he doesn't look at me during sex and his reply was that he sees what he needs to see. Okay guys, can you explain?

He's the one who has to explain what he means.
Me and DH normally make and hold eye contact several times during sex. Buts never been something we've discussed. I keep my eyes closed alot esspecially when I'm getting *close*, and like tish and her DH we like to watch the "action" if there is a good view available.
My Husband alwasys seems to have his eyes one of 2 places... #1 What ever his penis is working on or #2 My Face
I think My husband looks at me during sex more than I look at him - Everytime I peak he is looking at my face.
You should ask Your BF what that means... the way it sounds is negative but he might not have meant it to sound that way.
Only explanation we can give you is that this is his way of saying his level of comfort with it isn't as much as yours. We can't speak for him regarding why, and personally, I'd rather not judge him.
I too am very guilty of that at least half the time. We love either enjoy the animal in us and really look into each other, or we are so spirtually connected that no lights are needed and just enjoy that way, just like keeping eyes closed while kissing, right? SO it does vary with us.
Perhaps your communication would be open more if you were to simply mention that you enjoy him that much more (notice how I said 'him' and not just 'sex') when you gaze into each other's eyes/soul that much more...rather than pointing out what he doesn't do enough. We men respond very differently to things depending on 'how' they're presented to us, lol, so letting him what you like will be very different from mentioning what he may feel is a 'fault' of his somehow, right? Sometimes its all about how you say it and learning your own partners responses.
I agree with Tish also that visual people are sometimes more sexually fulfilled by enjoying the package and the action whereas others are the type that enjoy that union or connection, even through more eye contact. Like they always say, sex is a building and learning process just like the relationship, so learning each other and working out the differences is certainly the overall fun.
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Interesting. In my marriage, we don't necessarily need to open our eyes in order to gauge the other's response or reaction, nor do we view each other as more in to it for herself or for myself because of it either. Our connection is just too deep to depend on eye contact, but yes, it sure is nice to grab the others soul with that look anyway though, lol, no complaints here. ;)
I think there will always be something that men and women do or don't do that will be viewed by some as more for one's self while others don't view it that way at all. As always, each couple enjoys certain aspects of sex differently. Interesting point though.
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