What am I supposed to do up there?

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Registered: 09-19-2005
What am I supposed to do up there?
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Mon, 09-19-2005 - 4:46pm

I am so lost when it comes to woman on top. I'm not looking for advice like "own it!" or "show him how much you want him!" because I have no problem with that. And it is in no way a body image thing, either.

I mean, in a really literal physical sense...I'm just not sure what other options there are to be had than thrusting up and down on a penis. I want to be a bit more versatile than that.

I think also that part of it is that I'm afraid I'm going to accidentally bend something in a harmful way, but that's not all.

If anyone has any input or any especially helpful websites (no porn sites, please) I would totally appreciate it. The more precise the detail, the better.

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Mon, 09-19-2005 - 4:51pm

Don't do the up and down motion when on top, grind down on him, circulate your hips, move side to side, back and forth.


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Mon, 09-19-2005 - 4:53pm

Move .... in a way that gives you pleasure ... My DW loves on top and loves to pull herself down so I can apply some pressure to her clitoris

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Mon, 09-19-2005 - 4:54pm

First and foremost, you're not going to bend anything in a harmful way. if you get too carried away, it may slip out, but unless you're dancing on top of him in stilettos or outweigh him by 200 lbs, the odds of anyone getting hurt are slim to none.


Given that, don't just think in terms of up and down. Move in a 360 degree circle. Lean down low and ddddrrrraaaggg your self (and your clit) up and down his penis. Lean way back and let the penis find your G spot. Move in slow circles, overing just above him. Slide forwards and backwards. Turn around and repeat all the variations facing his feet. Slide a step or two north and sit on his face.


There's a world of variations.

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Mon, 09-19-2005 - 8:20pm

I agree - Just move around until it feels good. If You find a spot you enjoy he will enjoy it too.

Our Favorite Woman on Top Manuever - Reverse Cowgirl - I turn around facing his feet and Go at it. #1 It feels fantastic to me. Really hits the spot #2 I can get a bit of a view that way # 3 Husband has a Spectacular View.

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Tue, 09-20-2005 - 10:49am

Oh my....the possibilities......the others have given you great advice...but I have something else to share that kinda smacks of what you said about "owning it".

MOve up and down, put your hands way up in the air and flex, then slowly move your hands through your hair, down the sides of your body and than down further and touch yourself....making sure you look him in the eyes. Feeling yourself will give you just as much pleasure as it gives him!

Grind against him like the others said, but after a while, do get up on your feet, spread your legs wide and move that way a few times...the difference in sensation will surprise you both!

Now lean wayyyyyyyyyy back a few times...let him see your belly and everything else right up close...leaning way back and moving a bit will give you yet another sensation. Vary the movement between a posting action like riding horse with grinding and circling.

I tend to forget all about my partner in this position unless I'm in the mood for dominance than I use the position to tease for all I'm worth.

Its fun to spin around and do the reverse cowgirl now and then too :=)

Enjoy! And by no means will you hurt anything as long as you are mindful.

 

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Tue, 09-20-2005 - 11:06am

this thread inspired me...

Last night I started out giving my husband a BJ then after awhile jumped up on top - 3 or 4 nice long strokes and then back to the BJ... I did this for awhile but finally my Husband begged me To jump back on top.

So I jumped on top all the while he was telling me how sexy it was. I OWNED IT, and boy did I get off, once I felt I'd had my fair share I went right back to his BJ and finished him that way.

My Husband Likes Woman on Top alot when I'm really into it like that. When I get up there I'm not only having intercourse with him, I'm also Putting on an erotic show for him.

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Tue, 09-20-2005 - 2:21pm
When you're on top, you can also reach back and play with his balls. The backward reach helps his penis hit your G-spot and many guys love when their balls get some attention!
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Wed, 09-21-2005 - 2:20pm

Forgive my ignorance but the anatomy of a man and a woman do not allow to move back and forth or in circles. Just up and down. I really cannot do anything but up and down movements and I am getting bored of it.

Can anyone explain what exactly is happening when you move back and forth?, aren't you just hitting the walls of your vagina with your partner's penis?. Iam confused and I really want to try new movements but I just don't understand how to move in the way you all suggest. When I try to do it I can't because my anatomy does not allow it to move except up and down. Am I from other planet?.

iliana

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Wed, 09-21-2005 - 3:21pm
Huh? An erection isn't stuck in one position. You can gyrate on it and move how ever you choose to. And yes, the walls of your vagina are being massaged, whether you move up or down or around and around.
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Wed, 09-21-2005 - 4:17pm

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