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| Fri, 09-23-2005 - 2:15pm |
i have been taking the pill for a year now. in the last few months my natural wetness down there has decreased dramatically. my discharge has also changed in texture and theres less of it now. it is not foul smelling and i'm not itchy or sore down there, and i've been to the doctors for tests and they say nothings wrong, no infections or anything like that. i was just wondering if its because of the pill im on. I've been on the same brand since i started and this dryness has only started happening in the last 2 months or so, but i have heard that its not uncommon for your body to change suddenly when on the pill. it doesnt hurt me when having sex, but the dryness is causing my boyfriend disomfort when we do, because he is uncircumcised and has ripped his foreskin on occasion due to my problem.
so basically, any ideas or thoughts as to why my natural lubrication has suddenly gone? i never had a problem with this before, sex was always fine and easy for me. could it be something to do with my pill? and would changing it help matters?
thank you in advance
xxx cali xxx

If this pill has been working for you side effect wise and effect for awhile now I dont advise that you switch...
It is normal to sometimes expereince a little dryness. The hormones in the pill effect us all differently and this is likely a side effect for you. Keep in mind you may suffer worse side effects on a different pill!
Also You may not be getting enough fluids - There are tons of things that can effect your lubrication.
My Advise: Stick with your pill - But purchase some astroglide or KY Liquid and use it during sex. You may need to try several different Lubricants before you find one that you and your BF really like, but its worth it.
Your hormones determine the amount of lubrication you produce and since your BCPills affect your hormones, this sudden dryness might be caused by your birth control. But it's probably only temporary.
If it's not a temporary problem though, then you might consider trying another type of pill or just using extra lube on yourself AND your guy.....since he seems to be the one having the most problems. I would certainly vote for the latter suggestion if this birth control pill is working for you.
Edited 9/23/2005 3:34 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
Keep the lube close by so you don't have to get up to get it.
Again I have to agree with tish!
There is no reason to feel inadaquete. I normally lube up naturally just fine, other thimes I need a little extra lube w/ the help or Mr. Astrogiled. Nothing to be ashamed of. Your boyfriend should understand this, If He doesnt he has alot to lean about womens bodies.
If Its a big turn off, Keep it close by - in your night stand drawer or hell just put it right there next to the bed! and when its time to use some dont stop sex to do it - Have him drip it on you while he is still going, or use his hand to rub it on you. If it turns him on (which I bet it would) for you to put it on - Drip it on your fingers and Rub it on yourself while he watches.
Spit is a great lubricant - If the astrogile or whatever isnt handy Spit on your fingers and rub it on there - You can do this while he is still doing without saying a thing to him... or Better yet Ask Him to spit on You for lubrication.
Make it erotic and fun, make it just another sexy part of intercourse.
Also be sure to have lots of foreplay to help you naturally lube as much as possible before you start!!!!
I don't understand that point of view at all. My DH and I have always used lube from the beginning and I don't need it 99.9% of the time but it makes things more enjoyable for us. We've always kept it in the nightstand and used it for foreplay.
Listen, we aren't robots that will perform the same way every time so maybe your expectations need to be adjusted a bit. Change your point of view, apply some lube and let go of some of your preconceived ideas about your body. You'll both enjoy sex much more.
But changing your BCPills to deal with a likely temporary dryness problem (and with no guarentee that that will SOLVE your problem, I might add) is like swatting a fly with a frying pan. It's overkill. Do what you can NOW before taking that step.
Drink 8 glasses of water a day, use lube in the meantime, give your body some more time and THEN, talk with your dr. if necessary.
Edited 9/23/2005 5:44 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
Why would you feel inadequate about something over which you have NO control? Lack of lubrication might or might not be from the pill. It might be your own hormones that have changed....since you were fine for 10 months! Some women who've never used the pill have a problem with lack of lubrication! As the others pointed out, you might change the formulation, and wind up with more and worse side-effects!
If he's unhappy about using lubricants, then since it's not causing YOU pain, don't use them, and let him be in pain! I think it's him that's making you feel inadequate, NOT the lack of lubrication! He needs some education about how women's bodies work!